What are you afraid of?
Before I state a little about myself I would like to ask you a question.
What are you afraid of, what is holding you back from a happy and full life?
Most of us here, or on any other online dating site, are divorced. Sure, we thought that our last "other person" was going to make us happy and maybe, for a while we felt complete and whole but, for whatever reason that dream fell apart. No judging here because I'm in the same boat. NO ONE can make you happy, you need to do that however, that other half can help you and together you both travel through life helping each other to be whole.
So, what are you so afraid of?
Are you - Afraid of what your friends will think? Afraid what your mother, father or family will think? Maybe your kids are still at home and you're afraid what they will think. Did you make a packed with your 7th grade self that you would be running the world and have everything that you dreamed of and now you're afraid that your 7th grade self is laughing at you? [That may sound absurd but it is a REAL thing] If you have kids, do you remember what great thinkers and philosophers they were / are in 7th grade? Great age to make life plans based on reality, don't you think? Maybe you're afraid of what the cast of Sex in the City will thInk? Or, maybe you're holding out for a star from the Twilight or Magic Mike movies or, a romance novel to step off of the street and sweep you off of your feet.
Yep, that's going to happen.
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Is that what your afraid of??? Settling with reality because if your dream walks out of the movie screen you'll already be spoken for and you'll have to make a decision? Give yourself a break and [NOT to quote any Disney movies here but] "let it go".
Stop letting fear get in the way of you being you. Let's go grab a cup of coffee and have a conversation. It's a cup of coffee, not wedding vows!
So, what are you so damn afraid of?
About me - Somewhere along the line most people think that other people are things and not humans. Allow me to give an example. So, are you the type of person that looks out over your life like it is a puzzle on a table? You know, the sides are all trimmed and it fits perfectly on the world that you've created for yourself? Except that there is this one possession, um, [cough] I mean puzzle piece that is missing. If you can find that one man, that is the PERFECT shape, then you just snap him into the spot and ....... "all done."
My life puzzle has NO finished sides, gobs of colors that clash, entire shapes [3D] and motifs that don't fit into conventional, carbon copy, liberal art. Much of it looks like the album cover art from "YES", by Roger Dean. There is no missing single piece on the INSIDE that needs to fit the way I want it to. My puzzle DOES have an entire side that would like to fit with the open, unfinished edge of someone else's puzzle. It will never be a 100 percent match because, we are humans and not things. If it fit perfect, how boring would that be?
You see, if your puzzle has smooth "edge" pieces, finished boarders, then you think that YOU are the entire world and everyone else needs to fit into your reality. Well, you will never find what you're looking for, you'll never be happy because you have a juvenile / finite / limited imagination.
And now you know a little about me and what I'm looking for.
"May your Irish Eyes keep smiling!"