Definition of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results: Albert Einstein
Like many, I have been off and on this, and other sites, chatted with a few people, and gone on the occasional date. I have found dating and searching to be the most difficult challenge I've faced in a very long time. But with this new year (2015) comes renewed energy, to step back into the fray. Tempered with a better understanding of the partner I am seeking .
I am looking for my best friend and the love of my life. Consider me a straightforward person. I may say straightforward, but don't mistake that with being simple. I am quietly confident and tend to understate. Considerate, extremely loyal, caring , yet playful, curious, and sensual. I am passionate in everything I do, both work and family. . And I will admit, I am not perfect, but acknowledge weaknesses and work on them.
My partner, I consider my equal, and should share some of my views, have a great outlook on life, a willing spirit, an eagerness to explore, find those fabulous little out of the way places, and have a lifelong desire to learn. Someone who can dress up for a night out in the city, or get their hands dirty helping to build something (or at least lend moral support ;)
I love traveling, on and off the beaten path, adventures and what various cultures have to offer, and to lands where we don't speak the language, which doesn't usually include package tours to the Caribbean (unless it's just for a weekend). Social gatherings or events in the city, anything to do with the water, right through to exploring the wilderness, or the occasional auction. Spending time near or on the water, there is nothing like lying awake in a gently rocking boat, snuggled together, looking up at the stars, a glass of wine, not a care in the world, except for each other.
My children are almost out on their own, but stay with me when home from university. I tried to teach them everything I know, and encourage them to explore and learn for themselves. My philosophy is that it is better to world proof your children, rather than trying to childproof the world.
In a nutshell.
Personality: Have been told I am respectful, sensitive, romantic, and very loyal, innovative and an unconventional thinker, and can often string a couple of words together.
Honest: I am 56 (oh my how time flies) and now can't change my profile.
Cultured: Live theatre, galleries, Toronto symphony, an occasional concert or cultural events.
Outdoors: Canoeing, kayaking, boating and boat trips, sailing and hunting.
Handyman: Can fix almost everything, renovating houses, and builder of dreams. Fixing things mechanical that is, found fixing relationships a little tougher.
I am not a "serial dater", and will never become one. I am sincerely looking for that woman who would be my lifelong partner.
Several pictures are from Liberia, near the border of Guinea and Côte d'Ivoire. Oct 2010 and again in Nov 2011. Those were interesting trips.
An observation about communications. Women sometimes assume when they communicate through words or gestures, the meaning or intent is obvious. It may be obvious to you...... Men, as members of the right brained fraternity (some may say, small brained), we often need communication that is a little less subtle. And occasionally delivered with a little more impact. A club, swung with sufficient velocity is often appropriate to embed thoughts . ;) I can laugh at myself too.
Added: When I say "separated" it means truly apart and forever, over 5 years now, amicable and little baggage, after a 23 year marriage. Time to move on and looking forward to the future.