****I have not been online for a while. New profile is currently being renovated (Nov, 10th) ***.
It's taken a long time, and through trial and error, to realize the type of partner I'm seeking. Intelligence and an intellectual and emotional connection are the most important things to have a lasting relationship, in addition to shared activities and of course intimacy and human touch. I am here to find the love of my life. It's so easy to say isn't it? We've all lived busy lives, and somehow, now find ourselves searching again.
Consider me a straightforward person. But do not mistake being straightforward with being simple. I am quietly confident with a tendency to understate. I have a willing spirit, an honest heart, and an eagerness to explore and experience.
Traveling, on and off the beaten path, adventures and what various cultures have to offer, and to lands where we don't speak the language. Finding those fabulous little out of the way places, where ever in the world they may be. This doesn't include package tours to the Caribbean (unless it's just for a weekend). And I have a lifelong desire to learn.
Am single again for the past six years (permanently separated, divorce pending), after 23 years of marriage. Three kids, all finished university, but two came back (do they ever really leave?) No baggage, just a little pocket lint as a reminder to not repeat past mistakes.
Me, in a nutshell (might need a coconut shell ;)
Personality: Have been told I am respectful, sensitive, romantic, and very loyal. Innovative and an unconventional thinker, and can often string a couple of words together.
Culture: Live theatre, galleries, museums, Toronto symphony, an occasional concert or cultural events. Finding a nice little restaurant or pub with character, an outdoor concert or just roaming about the city.
Outdoors: Canoeing, kayaking, boating and boat trips, sailing, cross country skiing and occasionally camping. The camping has become a little more civilized, but a wilderness camping or canoe/kayak trip to a spectacular destination would be awesome (Yukon River canoe trip?). Past sports include SCUBA, and horseback riding, both to high levels.
Sensuality: Respectful, I like women and treat them as equals. Enjoy sensuality and giving. Compassionate and passionate. I care deeply.
Handyman: Can fix almost everything, renovating houses, and builder of dreams. Fixing things mechanical that is, found fixing relationships a little tougher. But I've learned a great deal the past few years.
Honest. I'm really 57 and can't change it. A woman recently told me I should change my status to Single, that it's justified because I've been separated so long. I want to be honest and open. I've been questioned if my pictures are representative. My weight has changed. I'm lighter and in much better physical condition from the 2013 pictures.
Food. I can be satisfied with basic healthy food, but always have unusual and various ethnic foods thrown into the mix. And I am learning how to cook, meaning more than just boiling water and burning pots.
Exercise I don't have any routine, but I keep physically active. Have no trouble climbing up a tree that doesn't have many branches. Recently began regular 5k+ HIIT walk/sprint, 4-5 times per week..
But really, what do all descriptions of likes, dislikes, dreams and desires really mean? They aren't a checklist, just descriptions of what has come before. What really matters, is where we want to go, what we want to do together. Similarities, common interests and intimacy create a relationship. But it's how we handle and resolve differences, that keeps us together.
An observation about communications. Women sometimes assume when they communicate through words or gestures, the meaning or intent is obvious. It may be obvious to you...... Men, as members of the right brained fraternity (some may say, small brained), we often need communication that is a little less subtle. And occasionally delivered with a little more impact. A club, swung with sufficient velocity is often appropriate to embed thoughts . ;) .... I can laugh at myself too.
Being innovative and a connective thinker, new ideas and concepts come easily. I have a world view. Engage me in a debate, and my intensity will show through. Although I have learned to temper my responses and emotions, I'm getting used to the taste of tongue. I have knowledge and wisdom on seemingly endless topics, which has occasionally earned me some (complementary) nicknames....;)
Books have taken a backseat to magazines and periodicals, covering a broad spectrum of topics. Typical ones include science, nature, outdoors, travel, mechanical, building and architecture, and occasionally cars (hotrods, although I don't have one). More recently, the occasional relationship book (not the picture type..;))
I don't watch much TV, and don't have cable, but shows I enjoy are science fiction, documentary shows, international news, and selected movies.
I enjoy theatre, had a subscription to Toronto Symphony, concerts. Occasional club,pub or just wandering about checking out shops and cafes. At the other end of the spectrum, there is watching for shooting stars, satellites and Aurora Borealis.
Why is it so difficult to find a match? Then I remember spending a number of days traveling by car in Africa, with a Liberian driver and a South African engineer. Everyone was speaking English, but the other two had very thick, but different accents. The funny part? The South African complained he couldn't understand a word the Liberian was saying !! So I was translating English to English.....
That's what it's like on here sometimes. We may all speak the same language, and all say the same things, but don't always understand each other.