****my profile is partially hidden (January 1st, 2017) but if we've communicated, it's still visible to and we can message ***
It's taken a long time, and through trial and error, to realize the type of partner I'm seeking. Intelligence and an intellectual and emotional connection are the most important things to have a lasting relationship, in addition to shared activities and of course intimacy and human touch. I am here to find the love of my life. It's so easy to say isn't it? We've all lived busy lives, and somehow, now find ourselves searching again.
Consider me a straightforward person. But do not mistake being straightforward with being simple. I am quietly confident with a tendency to understate. I have a willing spirit, an honest heart, and an eagerness to explore and experience.
Traveling, on and off the beaten path, adventures and what various cultures have to offer, and to lands where we don't speak the language. Finding those fabulous little out of the way places, where ever in the world they may be. Not package tours to the Caribbean, unless it's just for a fun weekend. I have insatiable curiosity, a lifelong desire to learn, along with the ability to learn and form new concepts.
Am single again for the past seven years (permanently separated, divorce pending 2017), after 23 years of marriage. Three kids, all finished university, but two came back (do they ever really leave?) No baggage, just a little pocket lint as a reminder to not repeat past mistakes.
Me, in a nutshell (might need a coconut shell ;)
Personality: Have been told I am respectful, sensitive, romantic, and very loyal. Innovative and an unconventional thinker, and can often string a couple of words together.
Culture: Live theatre, galleries, museums, Toronto symphony, an occasional concert or cultural events. Finding a nice little restaurant or pub with character, an outdoor concert or just roaming about the city.
Outdoors: Canoeing, kayaking, boating and boat trips, sailing, cross country skiing and occasionally camping. The camping has become a little more civilized, but a wilderness camping or canoe/kayak trip to a spectacular destination would be awesome (Yukon River canoe trip?). Past sports include SCUBA, and horseback riding, both to high levels.
Sensuality: Respectful, I like women and treat them as equals, in actions, not just words. Enjoy sensuality, giving and affection (including kissing). Compassionate and passionate. I care deeply and seek the same in return. I have confidence in myself to openly express my feelings.
Handyman: Can fix almost everything, renovating houses, and builder of dreams. Fixing things mechanical that is, found fixing relationships a little tougher. But I've learned a great deal the past few years. I'm flexible and adaptable.
Honest. I'm really 57 and can't change it, and a full 5'10". A woman recently told me I should change my status to Single, saying it's justified because I've been separated so long. I want to be honest and open. It's my character and morals. Likewise, I've been questioned if my pictures are representative. My weight has changed. I'm lighter and in much better physical condition from the 2013 pictures.
Food. I can be satisfied with basic healthy food, but always have unusual and various ethnic foods thrown into the mix. And I am learning how to cook, meaning more than just boiling water and burning pots.
Exercise I don't have any routine, but I keep physically active. Have no trouble scampering up a tree that doesn't have many branches. Recently (2016) began regular 5k+ HIIT walk/sprint, 2-4 times per week.. I've described my body type as "average", BMI in normal range (holiday feasting excluded). Maybe an understatement?
But really, what do all descriptions of likes, dislikes, dreams and desires really mean? They aren't a checklist, just descriptions of what has come before. What really matters, is where we want to go, what we want to do together. Similarities, common interests, shared emotions and intimacy create a relationship. But it's how we handle and resolve differences, that will keep us together.
An observation about communications. Women sometimes assume when they communicate through words or gestures, the meaning or intent is obvious. It may be obvious to you...... Men, as members of the right brained fraternity (some may say, small brained), we often need communication that is a little less subtle. And occasionally delivered with a little more impact. A club, swung with sufficient velocity is often appropriate to embed thoughts . ;) .... I can laugh at myself too.
Being innovative and a connective thinker, new ideas and concepts come easily. I have a world view. Engage me in a debate, and my intensity will show through. Although I have learned to temper my responses and emotions, I'm getting used to the taste of tongue. I have knowledge and wisdom on seemingly endless topics, which has occasionally earned me some (complementary) nicknames....;)
Books have taken a backseat to magazines and periodicals, covering a broad spectrum of topics. Typical ones include science, nature, outdoors, travel, mechanical, building and architecture, and whoever interestes me at the moment. More recently, the occasional relationship book (not the picture type..;))
I don't watch much TV, once or twice a week, and don't have cable. But enjoy science fiction, documentaries, international news, and selected movies. . I enjoy theatre, had a subscription to Toronto Symphony, concerts, theatre and galleries. Occasional club, pub or just wandering about checking out shops and cafes. At the other end of the spectrum, there is watching for shooting stars, satellites and Aurora Borealis at night, while drifting on a boat in the middle of a lake.
Why is it so difficult to find a match? Then I remember spending a number of days traveling by car in Africa, with a Liberian driver and a South African engineer. Everyone was speaking English, but the other two had very thick, but different accents. The funny part? The South African complained he couldn't understand a word the Liberian was saying !! So I was translating English to English.....
That's what it's like on here sometimes. We may all speak the same language, but we don't understand each other.
What are the most important characteristics in a partner? Intelligence!, emotionally open to form a relationship, sensual and truly desiring intimacy, fitness or willingness to get fit, outdoorsy.. Everything else is negotiable.
*** let's hear about your pet peeves on here. I'm sure there are thousands ;) ***