It's taken a long time, and through trials and errors, to realize the type of partner I'm seeking. Intelligence along with intellectual and emotional connections are important to a lasting relationship. In addition, having fun, however we make it, some shared activities and interests, and of course intimacy and human touch. I am here to fall in love all over again. So easy to say isn't it? We've all lived busy lives, and somehow, find ourselves searching again.
Consider me straightforward. But do not mistake being straightforward with being simple. I am quietly confident with a tendency to understate. I have a willing spirit, an honest heart, and an eagerness to explore and experience. Do you?
Traveling, on and off the beaten path, adventures and discovering what various cultures have to offer. Trekking lands where we don't speak the language. Finding those fabulous little out of the way places, wherever in the world they may be hiding. Not package tours to the Caribbean, unless it's just for a fun weekend. I have insatiable curiosity, a lifelong desire to learn, along with the ability to think and form new concepts, and maybe even change myself a wee bit.
Am single again for the past seven years after 23 years of marriage (permanently separated, divorce pending June/July 2017). Three kids, all finished university, but two came back for now (do they ever really leave?) No baggage, just a little pocket lint as a reminder to not repeat past mistakes.
Me, in a nutshell (might need a coconut shell ;)
Commitment: I am seeking a long term relationship. Message me now if forever is in your vocabulary. That said, starting with friendship, and willing to go slow to get to know each other. Experience has taught me slow is the better way, even if the other way (jumping in) is a lot more fun in the short run.
Personality: Have been told I am respectful, sensitive, romantic, and very loyal. Innovative and an unconventional (non-linear) thinker, and can often string a couple of words together.
Culture: Live theatre, galleries, museums, Toronto symphony, an occasional concert or cultural events. Finding a nice little restaurant or pub with character, an outdoor concert or just roaming about the city.
Outdoors: Canoeing, kayaking, boating and boat trips, sailing, cross country skiing and occasionally camping. The camping has become a little more civilized, but a wilderness camping or canoe/kayak trip to a spectacular destination would be awesome (Yukon River canoe trip?). Past sports include SCUBA, and horseback riding, both to high levels.
Sensuality: Respectful, I like women and treat them as equals, in actions, in my heart, not just words. Enjoy sensuality, giving and affection (including kissing). Compassionate and passionate. I care deeply and seek the same. I have confidence in myself to openly express my feelings.
Handyman: Can fix almost everything, renovating houses, and builder of dreams. Fixing things mechanical that is, found fixing relationships a little tougher. But I've learned a great deal the past few years. I'm flexible and adaptable.
Honest. I'm really 57 and can't change it, and a full 5'10". A woman recently told me I should change my status to Single, saying it's justified because I've been separated so long. I want to be honest and open. It's my character and moral fibre. Likewise, I've been questioned if my pictures are representative. My weight has changed. I'm much lighter and in better physical condition from the 2013 pictures. (new pictures coming, I will not post bathroom selfies)
Food. I can be satisfied with basic healthy food, but always have unusual and various ethnic foods thrown into the mix. And I am learning how to cook, meaning more than just boiling water and burning pots.
Exercise I don't have any routine, but I keep physically active. Have no trouble scampering up a tree that doesn't have many branches. Recently (from 2016) began regular 5k+ HIIT walk/sprint, 2-3 times per week, occasional 1km swim. I've described my body type as "athletic", it's accurate, BMI 23, that's normal range (extended holiday feasting occasionally excluded)
But really, what do all descriptions of likes, dislikes, dreams and desires really mean? They aren't a checklist, just descriptions of what has come before. What really matters, is where we want to go, what we want to do together. Similarities, common interests, sense of fun and adventure, shared emotions and intimacy create a relationship. But it's how we handle and resolve differences that will keep us together.
An observation about communications. Women sometimes assume when they communicate through words or gestures, the meaning or intent is obvious. It may be obvious to you...... Men, as members of the right brained fraternity (some may say, small brained), we often need communication that is a little less subtle. And occasionally delivered with a little more impact. A stout club, swung with sufficient velocity, is often appropriate to embed thoughts . ;) .... I can laugh at myself too.
Being innovative and a connective (non-linear) thinker, new ideas and concepts come easily. I have a world view. Engage me in a debate, and my intensity will show. Although I have learned to temper my responses and emotions, I'm getting used to the taste of tongue. I have knowledge and wisdom on seemingly endless topics, which has occasionally earned me some (complementary) nicknames....;)
Books have taken a backseat to magazines and periodicals, covering a broad spectrum of topics. Typical ones include science, nature, outdoors, travel, mechanical, building and architecture, and whoever interests me at the moment. More recently, the occasional relationship book (not the picture type..;))
I don't watch much TV, and don't have cable. But enjoy science fiction, documentaries, international news, and selected movies. . I enjoy theater, concerts, and galleries and had a subscription to Toronto Symphony,. Occasional club, pub or just wandering about checking out shops and cafes. At the other end of the spectrum, there is watching for shooting stars, satellites and Auroras at night, while drifting on a boat in the middle of a lake.
Why is it so difficult to find a match? Then I remember spending a number of days traveling by truck in Africa, with a Liberian driver and a South African engineer. Everyone was speaking English, but the other two had very thick, but different accents. The funny part? The South African complained he couldn't understand a word the Liberian was saying !! So I was translating English to English.....
That's what it's like on here sometimes. We may all speak the same language, but we don't understa