To start, I am not on POF frequently so I may not respond quickly.
Welcome to my profile!
I was married for almost 12 years. It is from that experience (the marriage and the divorce) that I have become the open minded, introspective person that I am today!
I am attracted to a man who is also open minded, wants to grow and who does not put people in "boxes". He must be honest, humble and willing to share with me. I accept the good and the bad and hope that he will do the same.
I am a people person, always wanting to learn, share and connect.
People tell me I am very unique, as I have lived on the East Coast, Midwest and the past 13 years here in Cali. You can't stereotype me, as I will surprise you again and again.
I am interested in someone who has a passion for either their career, a hobby or a purpose. Living a stagnant life is not attractive to me. There is so much to learn and experience in our short time here.
I have a few passions and my first was dance.
I danced daily since I was about 8 with the help of many wonderful mentors. Dance kept me out of trouble! I understand now that dance was, and still can be, a healthy escape or way to connect to my core self. I was fortunate to have a professional dance career of over 20 years.
Personally I really enjoy spending time with friends over tea or cooking. I enjoy movies, making jewelry, reading, flea markets, mentoring, designing fashion or assisting photographers as a stylist. I also like travel, camping, biking, hiking and playing games. My partner does not have to share the same interests as me. He should live an active and healthy lifestyle. I will support him and I hope that he will support me through encouragement.
My family is on the East Coast. I visit them about every 3 months. I have traveled all over the US many times including a cross-country RV trip in 2009. I am looking to travel internationally.
I have accomplished many of my goals. I am content being alone but ideally I would like to find a long-term companion to enjoy life with. I am definitely looking for that special connection. Having a partner is an option NOT a requirement. I am interested in finding the guy not a guy. I am not interested in marriage but am not completely closed off to it. Until then I hope to date, make new friends and learn new things. I believe life is a journey so I will try to take something positive away from every encounter and experience. I have a great life with great friends and family therefore this person that becomes my companion will be very special.
My personality is relaxed and I can go with the flow. I am a leader but can easily follow. I do not have much understanding for a "wishy washy personality". I once was very anxious and uptight and learned to let go and enjoy life more. I like being surrounded by art and color. I have a large music collection that I play frequently. I like most styles except country and heavy metal. It is important that my partner enjoys music.
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR
I am looking for emotional intelligence, some creativity, someone who is expressive and kind to others. I need a strong physical connection. I am usually attracted to men close to my age who have an athletic build. It is very important that he has healthy habits with his diet and exercise routines. I am physically fit and work in health & fitness.
Most important, he should be honest and resilient. Life has many challenges so a positive attitude and strong work ethic when things don't work out as planned is key!
It is important that he does not see people in a hierarchy based on career, income, ethnicity, sexuality etc. Treating all people with respect shows a person with integrity and confidence at his core.
HOW I TREAT MY PARTNER
I am loyal and loving but not overbearing. I respect that we all have our preferences in how we accept love & admiration. I would try to understand and appreciate his needs. I consider myself a balanced give/take person. I believe to be a good giver you must also receive. I would hope that we could come together naturally to eat, play, create, share, explore etc.
BAD STUFF ABOUT ME
I get "over" creative and can make a mess when feeling inspired. I also love to work. It is my passion (have learned to find balance here). Ohh..and I have been told that I am "too direct". I am not so good at interpreting messages given to me that are implied. I say what I am thinking so if you have a big ego then you may be offended frequently.
It is really important that I am heard. Ignoring my feelings can trigger me.
I think people can be easily offended online. I may go from being active on this site then off it for a week or two due to an event I am involved with or due to travel or maybe I am dating someone. I am chill and appreciate direct communication. If I have a profile on this site then I am dating and I assume you are too. I won't pretend or feel guilt and hope you will appreciate and agree with this view. When I/We find a deep connection then I am sure we will agree to change our online status or our hearts will keep us inactive! I have found that for me it is best to connect slowly. I am not interested in someone who uses the Internet to date obsessively.
Please do not contact me for a "hook up..." or to be a "hook up" girlfriend. I am looking for a mature man, who is a good communicator and who listens to his heart. His actions (more than his words) will speak his truth.
If you feel a need to explain that you do not like or trust online dating then I most likely will not respond to you. Dating in general is a risk.
Women get approached a lot online and then online dating becomes quite a task. Please do not approach me if you are wearing sunglasses in your primary photo. It is important to me that I can see your eyes.
If you have an empty profile, then what makes you different from all the other men on here? I appreciate a man who can expose something deeper about him. Seeing your muscles, tattoos, motorcycles and cars is just not enough to spark my interest. I wish everyone luck and growth!
Thanks for reading!
My first date would follow a phone conversation and would be more like a casual meeting. I am practical and like to get to know someone. I would like to go somewhere where we can talk and see how things flow. I am open to developing friendships should we agree to go in that direction. I also think that starting with friendship that progresses is cool.
If there is a mutual interest..maybe grab some dinner...dancing? I also think that going dutch is appropriate with online initial dating.