I'm a bit of an odd duck.
Pretty laid back usually; most stuff just doesn't bother me... except the stuff that bothers me. While I do enjoy hitting the bars or going out with my friends, I realized a while back that I am past the whole "getting drunk for the sake of getting drunk" thing. I do drink occasionally, and have even been known to get blitzed, but that hasn't been my intent in quite sometime. I am just as happy to kick back with some hot cocoa and a good movie as I am throwing on some heels and staying out 'til dawn.
I'm not a tomboy--pink is my favorite color, I love nature but but my idea of "roughing it" is a three star hotel, I typically only wear mascara but I get giddy and a little spendy at the makeup counter, I go for a pedicure at least once a month and usually end up with something sparkly on my toes, and puppies and kittens make me squee. But I'm not your average girl, either. I'm excited by zombies, Doctor Who, guns and such, cars, the hardware store, boxing, and explosions. I don't think vampires should ever be sparkly or able to walk in the sunlight. Also, I have a mouth like a sailor; my favorite curse word starts with a C, ends with a T, and mentions the United Nations in the middle. I only use it in appropriate situations, of course. It's surprising how often situations are appropriate.
Also, because of my long work hours and irregular work schedule, the fella who goes out with me has to understand that I don't have a lot of weekends off and can't be very spontaneous.
So.. yeah. Any questions, just ask :)
What I'm looking for is a smart guy with whom I can converse about current events as well as the real-worldness of Dr. Who and zombie movies. I want a man who is independent and is comfortable with my independence; I want a relationship but I also want time alone to see and travel with friends and explore my own thoughts and hobbies. I also like affection--warmth, touch, and holding hands--and it's important to me to show and be shown that affection; the time we spend together is important. Also, he must be secure with the idea that I won't need him in my life, rather I will want him there. Chemistry, though, is probably most important. I need to feel a sense of ease with my dates. If I don’t feel that, it doesn’t matter how attractive he is physically or what he brings to the table in other ways, it’s a deal-breaker.
****Just for some clarification, because everyone has a different interpretation: I'm here for dating and it means to me just that. Dinner and a movie, picnic in the park (when it's not so bleedin' hot here), drinks, coffee, or whatever you can think of, count me in! I'm not expecting to find the man of my dreams on here, if I happen to find him, though, AWESOME! If it doesn't turn into something, well... AWESOME! We'll have some laughs, and maybe we'll end up long-time friends, or who knows. That said, a date does not entail me coming to wherever you are or you coming to where I am and we hook up. And if you're reading this and thinking that this doesn't apply to you for some reason... well, it applies to you especially so. (I'm truly sorry for being so negative, but some people just don't get it.)****
Well, you've made it this far… message me already!
Hmm... Good question. It's cliche, but dinner and drinks is always good choice in my book. Conversation, I find, flows well over food. And how a person treats the server speaks worlds about them.