More about me:
I'm an unconventional adventurer/world traveler, looking for someone as much fun and as loyal, brave, and kind as I am. I write prose, poetry, and songs, and love books and music of many kinds. I am interested in alternative/sustainable lifestyles and technologies. I want to be with someone who strives to live lightly on Mother Earth. I seek a deep connection with the love of my life, and eagerly await the arrival of an equal and a best friend who wants to share this awesome life with me and live it up NOW!
I was in a 5-year monogamous relationship with the father of my 3-year-old daughter, who is still my close friend. We had frequent conflicts, which we failed to resolve, so we separated and freed one another to explore with others. We still love one another, and do not rule out the possibility of one day realizing a sacred union together, though we agree that right now, we are not right for each other, and would only hold one another back from growth and development.
I don't smoke or drink, but I have been known to enjoy the natural highs that Mother Nature has so graciously provided to her children. I am not religious but a free spirit, who lets her conscience be her guide in all things.
I have been lonely since my mate and I called it quits. The lucky guy who hooks up with me can expect to be kept VERY busy! If you are unafraid of a smart, strong, wild woman, and not afraid to give yourself freely to another person, I may be who you are looking for. Come and let's spend our lives spoiling the hell out of one another!
More about you
I seek a happy, vital, energetic guy, who is optimistic, and loves living. I am looking for the same kind of loyalty and self-disclosure that I offer, and a brave soul, ready to step into this grand adventure with me. A sharp mind and sensitive spirit are important, as well as self-confidence, not to be confused with arrogance or conceit. I need someone to talk to who looks into things more deeply than most, someone who knows who he is, and is unafraid to show his whole self to me. I want someone just as unique and marvelous as I am, who is unthreatened by a woman who knows what she wants.
Health is a turn-on, so no addicts, drunks or smokers please. Rabid veganism/vegetarianism is over the top, though! In my diet, as in most aspects of my life, I seek the middle path. More superficially, I tend to be attracted tall and thin guys, with lovely faces. Muscles are nice, as long as they don't dominate the landscape too much. Cleanliness is a real plus! If you are a musician, artist, writer or artisan, you may well intrigue me. Age is unimportant, as long as you don't tire easily, and don't have a problem with my seeming about 20 years younger than I am supposed to be. ;-) Young guys are A-OK with me!
I have 3 kids, ages 3, 16 and 19, who are essential in my life, though two of them are big enough now, that I can frequently go out on my own. I am unemployed, and don't have any plans to get a job. The kids' dads are supporting us very modestly until the kids are grown. Anyone looking for a sugar-momma is barking up the wrong tree here! I have no plans to ever marry again.
Sex is a really big deal to me, and I broke up with my first husband, in part, because it was merely a physical thing for him. I have had lots of (technically!) good sex in my life, and can appreciate it, but my next lover will be one who proceeds to make an art out of cherishing me, body, mind, and spirit, at every opportunity.
My most recent partner was a wonderfully tender lover, but seemed to have a low level of testosterone, so our libidos were rather a mismatch. I could have been very happy with him, sexually, if only he had been available to make love with the frequency I needed. I now seek a dedicated partner for my tantric pracice, whose level of desire is a better match for my own. It doesn't have to happen every single day (I can't see myself complaining if it does!), but it needs to happen more than once a week! If all this resonates with you, come on and sweep me off my feet!
(Self-defined Christians, Muslims, and practicing Jews, or any other dogmatic types need not apply. Merely ethnic Jews can feel free to contact me, however! ;-) I am also NOT looking for a dominant male or macho man. You don't have to be submissive, but you'd better not be looking for anyone to push around. I can also do without cheaters, cowards, workaholics, gamblers, or right-wing guys. If you describe or think of yourself as "average," or "a regular Joe," or if conformity is one of your lifestyle choices, we are most likely not a match. If I am favorably impressed by your message or IM, my photos, and/or additional personal information will be available on request.)
I have been opening recently to the idea of polyfidelitous relationships, which is not to say promiscuity. I have only been in monogamous, faithful relationships in my adult life, so I am not experienced with the poly lifestyle. I have come to be interested in the possibility, however, because of how amazing a fit my last partner was for me in some ways. and how terrible a mismatch in others. I have to wonder if we might have stayed together if we had also been free to have intimate relationships with committed others. It is a tall order to ask for just one being to be everything one needs in this life, after all! I wonder if it might be possible to live in a family which included more than one lover, and to conduct ourselves honorably and with love. Could my lovers be good friends? Might they also have other lovers with whom I could get along?
I know some folks are living this way who claim to be happy. Being with someone who is into the poly scene is not a must for me. I would be gratified, however, to know some folks who are making a go of this lifestyle, so that I could have an opportunity to understand it better. If you live this way, and feel good about it, please feel free to contact me, regardless of whether or not you find me of interest, yourself. I would appreciate the contact, in the interest of furthering my own understanding of a new concept. If you are into the idea of dating me, I'd like to have a frank discussion about polyfidelity with you, as we are getting to know each other. I am all about transparency and choose to conduct all my relationships with other beings in a radically honest fashion. I hope you will operate on the same basis. :-)