I've always thought that the perfect relationship for me is spending quality time with someone who lives down the street. Someone who is busy, happy and fulfilled in his own life and wants to come over after a long and wonderful day doing his own thing to discuss ideas and solutions... someone who doesn't expect a companion who entertains them, cooks for him or does his laundry - and having said that ignoring me completely doesn't work either. I like ideas. I love projects. I like to solve problems. The way to my heart - is through my brains.
I'm a writer first and foremost....I earn money doing that and I love earning money writing. My books range from thriller to romance. I'm terrible at small talk with real people and find the minutia of most people's lives boring in the extreme. Of course I was much more exciting before old injuries from a life of dancing and sports decided to bite back....I don't do long walks any more at least not without my wheelie. I love road trips especially when they're linked to a story I'm working on. I love talking about gardening - surviving global warming and epidemics are a passion, life in the 18th century is interesting, progressive politics turns me on, research into things like old tools and structures. I am more into classical living than current day living that includes taste in music (Tchaikovsky, Mozart, Verdi), art, living in general....not literature - there I'm contemporary and like action adventure, thrillers and such.
Long term monogamy tends to be my inclination although I have been single for 2/3rds of my life. I've thought long and hard about what I want and what I want is not conventional - I'm not conventional. I'm looking for a friend first, second and third. Someone I find easy to talk to. I like to give myself time to know someone. I'm physically responsive and not at all a prude but I am selective and like things to grow out of mutual interests. I'm also somewhat limited by arthritis in my hips, knees and hands. I strongly believe in chemistry. I like people who like me the way I am not the way I would be if I was back in my dancing days, was a snappy dresser, loved large parties and big groups of people. I definitely don't like to argue I'm also not very dominateable....as a Taurus I'm quite happy smelling flowers until I'm not. I tend to dig in my heels when pushed and then disappear.
I'm not interested in religion in the slightest. I'm not a traveler - physically - unless travel is made really easy. Mentally the world is my oyster. I love good conversation with interesting men who are interested in a wide range of things. I love small dinner parties with intelligent people. I spend hours researching things on You Tube. I'm very interested in survival...one of my book subjects.
I don't like mental and emotional games - I leave the games for cards - although I stopped playing bridge because there were too many games involved that had nothing to do with the cards. I prefer direct communication to sub-text but I'm pretty fast at understanding subliminal conversations. I am really good at reading under the line....I am a writer after all....so make sure what you say is what you really mean. My profession is writing, my hobby is writing, my days are spend writing and when I'm not writing I'm thinking about writing. Pretty one dimensional in a multi-dimensional way.
I suppose I'm looking for someone who is as active and busy as I am... (mentally - physically I'm rife with arthritis and sit most of the time) I'm determined to become a best selling indie writer and have my income match what my Google profile suggests. I'd like to spend time with someone I can be alive with. I'm not conventionally romantic. I dislike public displays of affection. Brainstorming is my turn on - I love ideas - I love learning new things - in fact holding hands by the fire and long walks on the beach sound rather prosaic unless the conversation is scintillating. My Wheelie doesn't work well in sand. I'm a peculiar mixture of introvert and leader. As a Number 1 Taurus With Leo rising and Mars in Capricorn, my inclination is to be both out there and not out there. I like to think things through and adjust rather than be confronted.
I am not interested in wasting the time of men who have never read a book nor am I interested in Conservatives and religious zealots - we'll bore each other really quickly - either that or come to blows. I don't like fights I like solutions. There's nothing worse than watching a date's eyes glaze over as I finally get to talk about something I'm interested in. I love good conversation and I particularly like problem solving in the political and economic arena. I love Robert Reich, Keynsian Economics, The New Deal. I detest Ayn Rand. I've been a politics and news junky for years. My thriller novels are political and medical thrillers. My idea of a fun evening is cooking a good meal for a small, select group of like minded friends talking politics and solving world problems. If you don't like someone smart don't waste your time on me.
As a professional writer I spend countless hours alone in a room that is populated with fictional friends and enemies in wide ranging situations and circumstances - That life is an amazing adventure. Lately I've discovered the profit in writing romantic erotica - It's fun and I'm relieved personal expertise isn't a prerequisite.
In my past I have done some fairly exciting things - I've climbed the Grossglockner in Austria which was a long hike except when we were on the glaciers and I did find edelweiss - I did quite a bit of rock climbing in the Schwangunks outside New York City - I did some great hiking in the Tetons. I horse raced in Wyoming - well at least the horse raced. I was on the ski patrol in Vermont and was a New York City Paramedic. I was hugely involved in Democratic politics and was a community activist for years. I used to be a dancer, actress and singer - mostly show tunes and opera - I have a trained voice and was a lead singer in both a Light Opera Company and a Gilbert and Sullivan company. I built a ground breaking ambulance service from scratch. I co-directed the summer internship program at the Ford Foundation. I've been in business for years - my position has usually been the power behind the throne - although I'm just as capable of leading as the person in charge I usually stand behind - I love strategic planning and project development - organizing is like breathing.
I've been divorced for years with three grown children and three grandchildren. I've lived with people and lived alone - either way I spend hours by myself writing - which has been problematic for people I've lived with who didn't understand exactly what living with a writer meant when we started dating. I do not find sitting and watching TV companionable. I find it boring - I neither own nor watch television. I