As my coffee cup and I sit here and contemplate just how to rewrite this profile for the umpteenth time, in order to attract the right kind of woman, I am plagued by the thought that social networking may be working against any healthy social connections.
It's not so much the proverbial hard and fast rules of dating, it's the general sense of self-respect and self-worth I have that allow me to be content not to settle.
So, here's the pitch:
Immediately people notice my eyes and smile, but my humor comes out quickly and conversation with me is really easy. I'm very honest and loyal. You can hear my laugh from across the room. I enjoy hiking, performing comedy (yes, I am a comedy writer and comedian,) winter and summer sports, long drives along the coast, holding hands while walking to our dinner reservation, running and working out and I'd like to enjoy doing it all with a woman who enjoys doing the same; a woman who LOVES being with me and only me. I want a partner with whom I can enjoy all activities together; whatever they may be.
I'd have to say that developing a relationship with a great foundation built on friendship, trust, honesty; monogamy and respect really are the most important things to me. Attraction is great and needed, but without the bind of friendship that creates the respect and mutual admiration, a loving relationship isn't likely.
Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include intimate relationships.
I've done some cool things in life, some adrenaline pumping , some crazy, and some spiritual. Performing stand-up comedy, wheelin' and dealin' in the car imdustry (that can be a rush...plus, I am a car nut) and working with celebs and other comics (when I tour), working as a flight nurse on a medical helicopter and traveling to many far reaches just to breathe the air there.
I moved back home to assume an insurance sales position and am a licensed producer with a large company (as of 4/1/15) and am putting 18 yrs of nursing behind me. It was time to retire.
I'm as real a man as they come. From weekend retreats to a bed and breakfast in Vermont where there is no cell reception; to the quick getaway to my other home, Los Angeles, CA, I can, and will do it all.
So, I'm hoping a sensitive, successful guy like myself can find that woman who is perfect for him...not perfect, but perfect for me; faithful, honest, passionate, loves to cuddle, and is willing to cope with my little quirks - not much, just those little things about me that make me...well, me. I'm very passionate and love the "chemistry" that comes only with that special person. I love my family and I'm very close to my niece. She's 8 going on 30 and that kills me inside. I'm a big cuddler - it's hard for me to sleep, unless I'm being held or holding that special someone. Those are just a few of the things that make James, James.
I HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS FROM OUR DATE. As with adults, we've all had dates that range from horrible to AMAZING!. I'm a CHEMISTRY junkie. I know I have a match on here somewhere. From the minute we meet and feel that spark, to our end of evening kiss. Ya’ know, it's not so much the kiss as it is the milliseconds prior to the kiss --- we are so close that you feel the heat from my breath; our mouths water; eyes closed...dreaming of how this will feel; we slowly make our way closer and our brains pick up the pheromones...the CHEMISTRY begins; finally a soft, perfectly fitting kiss. One we've, quite hopefully, been waiting for hours to get to.
Ha, ha I love that stuff. I'm a total romantic and love being in love. It just doesn't happen for me that often.
If you feel like taking a chance, email me. I'm a real man and a professional who looks for the "personal" in the Personals, so stop wasting time and contact me.