If I had the answer I wouldn't be here online! Having said that, I came across this quote by Sam Keen. "We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." and it clicked on many levels.
Let's keep this simple... Email, talk and/or meet. I think we are all looking for the same core values. For me it starts with family first and the golden rule. If it seems good then let's go out again! After that- let's peel away the onion and enjoy learning about one another. Hopefully it just keeps on going and turns into what we are looking for...