So, I decided to overhaul my profile some time ago for several reasons. I think the key to this whole online dating thing is to give as honest a representation as possible of who you are as a person, in hopes that the person reading it (you) says “Hey, this person sounds like someone I want to date” and voila, the whole process begins. Well, allow me to shed some light on who I am as a person.
I am silly. If you will direct your attention to the photo of me in my winter hat (it’s the one with the antennas), it screams “This guy does not take himself too seriously” and that is me in a nutshell. Yes, I have a professional job, I do the 9-5 shirt and tie thing, and I spend my working hours molding young minds, and dealing with serious issues and stress, but when I’m to my personal life, I like to have fun. As has been said “You shouldn’t take life too seriously, because you’re never going to make it out alive.”
I laugh….a lot. I crack dumb jokes often. If you’re not someone who laughs freely, you will surely look at me and think to yourself “What the hell is this guy laughing at?”
I’m very laid back. I like to go with the flow of things, and always try to look on the bright side of things. It worked for me in a deployment to Afghanistan, so I stand by it as a tried and true method of looking at life.
I hate wearing ties. I’m not a formal type of guy. I can do it, and I do it well, whether it’s a business dinner, or corporate function, meeting some political VIP…but never will that be my first choice for anything.
I am not pretentious, nor have I ever been accused of being so.
I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic. I enjoy hugging, and cuddling. I’m all about hand holding while strolling downtown , chatting about nothing in particular, and then stopping at Starbucks or Argo Tea to chat more over drinks. And yes, if you ever tell that to my friends about the cuddling, I will deny it.
I’m not much of a sports guy. I love MMA (Mixed Martial Arts, like the UFC), Soccer, and Rugby. Other than that, you will rarely find me watching sports unless a Chicago team is in the championships.
I love to learn, and would love a partner who wants to learn right along with me. I love to drink wine, but know very little about it. Perhaps you can teach me, or we could go to a wine tasting class together? I’d also love a partner for ballroom dancing lessons. In addition, I’m always checking out new art exhibits, installations, or museum exhibits. I love taking in all that this wonderful city has to offer. I would love someone who has a zest for the city like I do.
My musical tastes are extremely eclectic. I love jazz, R&B, hip-hop (I’m talking the good stuff, either old school or the stuff they never play on the radio), metal and classical. I can talk hours about music, artists, etc, etc.
My passion in life outside of my job is Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I’ve been training for about 3 years now, and I absolutely love it, and am thankful for every day I get to train. I train as much as my schedule and body will allow.
I’m a movie buff. Netflix and I have a love/love relationship. While I love being out and about, if you proposition me with some popcorn, a good movie, and some cuddling, it’s a total date.
I love to cook, read, take pictures and chat. Sharing a long conversation over green tea, or a glass of wine, is an ideal evening to me. I just really enjoy connecting with people, and seeing how they view the world.
Finally, I have an adventuresome spirit. I ride in the Chicago Naked Bike Ride annually, the Chicago Perimeter Ride (90 miles), I've been known to run 5K's and 10K's. I hate to run, but I do love the feeling of accomplishing something despite the angst it may cause in my brain…kind of like wearing a tie to a corporate dinner.
Hopefully this provides a little insight into who I am. As for what I’m looking for, simply someone who will complement my idiosyncrasies, and see all the wonderful things I have to offer. If you find me intriguing, definitely send me a message, and let’s see if there’s a spark. I look forward to hearing from you.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I think a good first date offers lots of opportunity for conversation and simply getting to know the other person. I would start with meeting at a coffee house or cafe, something informal. If after an hour or 2 we're still enjoying each other's company, then let's have dinner. I'm very laid back, and like to go with the flow of things. However, I don't think a movie offers a good chance to get to know each other on a first date. A walk in the park? Strolling and picture taking? The possibilities are endless I suppose.