I'm sad that I feel the need to write this, but if all you want to do is to be rude, to criticise what I've written in my profile, to argue that my search parameters are 'wrong' [?} or to take your dislike of the male genre in general out on me - please stop being childish and abstain! Better still, get off POF and see a shrink! Surely you have more productive and constructive things to occupy your mind; I certainly do. If that's not you, please read on.
Simply put, I'm me - and I like me; which is just as well, I suppose, as I have to live with myself. You, on the other hand, have a choice; perhaps you'll like me too; perhaps not. Regardless of the seriousness of my quest, which has probably led me to write an overly-serious profile, I am a man who is fun to be around. I am not at all comfortable in high heels and a little black dress [hopefully you are], but I wear a dinner jacket handsomely, and welcome the opportunity to 'dress up'.
I have to admit I've never seen so many 'glass half full', 'loves family and friends', 'enjoys good food and great wine' [who doesn't?], 'loves to travel', 'unique because I'm me','carpe diem', 'live, love, laugh' people assembled in one place. Originality rules! Being able to love and care for someone unconditionally, other than my children, doesn't make me unique, but it does seem to put me in a small minority. I am a natural leader, very sociable, and' people person', but I also recognise when to be no more than a fellow team member or to follow another's lead; awareness and adaptability dusted with a light coating of humility. ;)
My standards are high in everything I do. I'm very selective, but would you want it any other way? I'm a true English gentleman who is intelligent, worldly, well-traveled, well-educated, cultured, sophisticated yet straightforward, down to earth, romantic, an avid reader and learner, sociable, humorous (my humour tends to be from real life situations, witty, or wickedly sarcastic - but not in a nasty way!), quick-witted, giving, non-judgmental, loyal, honest, respectful, passionate about everything I choose to do ... the list goes on ... but I also have my good points! I'm fortunate to be able to turn my mind and my hands successfully to most things, and I've even been known to use them both at the same time. I'm far removed from the average 63-year-old, and I'm certainly not looking to share the rest of my life's journey with 'Ms Average'. I'm not looking for 'dating', a casual relationship, 'hanging out' or 'intimate encounters', but instead I seek that last great love of my life. I'd rather stay single than wallow around endlessly in a murky pond. That said, every relationship has to start somewhere. If you're not serious about finding a match, then please don't waste my time; it's too precious. I get along just fine alone, but I know I'm so much happier in a loving and committed relationship.
I am looking for someone who is very 'normal'. I don't expect you to have discarded all your so-called 'baggage' from past disappointments, but it would be nice if you've learned to live with it. I'm serious in my search, I'm not looking to be 'rescued' - I don't need it - and I have no desire to rescue anyone else. I don't want to seem mean, but I've been there twice before and have no desire to go there yet again. So if you have emotional, mental, financial, family, weight, alcohol, drug, commitment, self-esteem or other significant problems in your life, please contact the relevant counsellor rather than me.
I do not respond to 'flirts', 'wants to meet', being added as a 'favourite', or those without representative photographs. POF is not, after all, a 'candy store'. I was amused - or was it frustrated - to read the caption under a photograph on one lady's profile: "This is a picture of my adopted daughter I don't have any of myself, but I look average. A bit like my daughter but much older version." Yes, it really said that!: I wish you all the best of luck in your search for whatever or whomsoever it might be.
A note: For those of you that haven't read POF's 'rules', if our ages are more than 14 years apart [POF's owner, Marcus, seems to have a 'thing' about age difference!] or if I'm not in your stated search age range, I cannot contact you. It seems that many women have 'underestimated' their age - a simple mistake, surely? I have not. Strangely, at least from my experience, there seems to be an 'age bulge' around 49! It also seems that most are looking for a significantly younger man; well, I wish you the best of luck. For me, age is not a priority; I don't need a younger woman to make me feel youthful, vibrant, attractive and sensual. However, attractiveness is important to me, along with such qualities as one's innate character, curiosity and intelligence; Again, my experience here is that there are few beyond their mid-50s who spark my interest. Finally, in this diatribe, regardless of how many letters and flirts you purport to receive, please behave like a lady and have the decency to reply to someone who pens a 'proper letter' - even if it's only a stock 'thanks, but no thanks' response. What was that about a 'golden rule'?