Every faetry tale and romantic fantasy ever put on paper appears somewhere on this site.Almost nothing is written about people skills.The problem with that is that 90% of building a relationship is based on people skills and only a small part is romance.I consider romance to be the icing on the cake.You wouldn't try to apply icing before you bake the cake.Building a foundation for your ltr. comes first.Romantic gestures don't settle issues or work through problems.A gift of flowers or candy can smooth over any ruffled feathers.Only after you put in the effort and solve the problem.If you want a partnership you must put in the time and effort to make it a success.Sharing your feelings,taking risks and being vulnerable are all part of building trust.theese things are not optional..If you believe you can succeed w/o sharing of yourself you are not thinking clearly.If you have not invested of yourself you are not creating trust.Peoples emotions are unique to each individual.If you want someone to understand what you feel you must tell them.There is no other way.A ltr.w/ a solid foundation can seem to be magical but there is no magic involved.Success is based on the thoughtful efforts and determination of the people involved.A ltr is not something you have its something you do.If you don't do it every day it fades away.Ther are no custom made people.Its an off the rack world.You must accept people as they are.Alterations to be made as you go.Soulmates are a myth,prince charming is a childrens story and waiting for the one is not a relationship skill.No professional relationship therapist would include these fantasies in a discussion of successful dating strategies..The opinionof any number of professionals is available at a click.If you insist on investing all your hopes in fantasy,still waiting for a ltr to "happen" to you,.You are wasting your time.Please don't waste mine.If the thought of working at a romantic relationship offends your sense of romance than you lack the commitment for a serious relationship.If filling out your profile description is too" hard" for you,than a real relationship is way beyond your capability.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
A calm place,getting to know one another.Talking over a nice dinner.If there is a connection things will develop naturally.