Please be patient and bear with me.... It's been awhile since I've done something like this (online dating, dating in general, trying to figure out the best way to describe myself).
Why is it so hard for 2 people to find each other and live "happily ever after"? If you break it down into simple statistics, there's only 4 outcomes when a boy and girl meets
1) boy likes girl, girl doesn't like boy
2) boy doesn't like girl, girl likes boy
3) boy doesn't like girl, girl doesn't like boy
4) boy likes girl, girl likes boy...... ding ding ding ding we have a winner!
But unfortunately it's not as simple as this. And even if you reach scenario 4, it can all go to hell in a hand basket if boy steps on girl's cat, or girl puts a dent in boy's car door when she opens door into another car. =p
Anyway, let's get some of the basics out of the way since I don't keep getting asked the same questions =) I was born, raised, and lived in Queens all my life. I'm Chinese. I work in midtown Manhattan doing IT work for a telecom giant. I'm WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get.... for those who remember that far back in the old PC days). I like keeping things simple. Life is already complex enough as it is. No piercings, no tattoos, no jewelry... not even a watch. The only "performance enhancing drug" I take is my asthma inhaler. I don't play games. Some women feel they need to test their man's faithfulness and to see how much he will fight for her. For example, woman goes on a date with another guy, with the intent of getting her boyfriend jealous or insecure, and to make him "step it up" to adorn her with gifts.... I'm not that guy whose going to participate. I've been there and done that. I will drop her like a stone in the river.
There are times when it's nice to stay in and watch a cheesy Godzilla movie on Roku. And there are times when I'm in more of a thrill seeking mood, drag racing my car at the track or mountain biking on the black diamond trail. I love Yelp, it's such a valuable tool. I love finding new places to eat.
I hope to keep this short, simple, sweet as to not bore you to death with reading a novel. I know the human attention span is not that long =p But yet I hope I've captured your interest, and you want to peer deeper into this "jaded lone wolf" ;-)
I know we're all here trying to put our best foot forward, and trying to make ourselves sound super awesome. You might be thinking "Aw man, he's an animal. He's active, physically fit, adventurous. Mountain biking, 50mi bike tours..." Etc, and so on and so forth. In reality, I'm not invincible, or super human. I am vulnerable (I'm recovering from a knee injury sustained from mountain biking). I'm not the Dos Equis guy. (If I was the Dos Equis guy, then I wouldn't be on another dating site.) I'm just a handy, practical, hands on, average joe trying to stand out from the crowd in my special little way.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
You are a bit nervous, uneasy, shy. But you feel a strange sense of comfort with me, and agree to meet up. You want to keep things simple and be safe, simply meeting for coffee. I think meeting for coffee is a bit boring and mundane. I use my powers of persuasion, sweet talk you into sitting down for breakfast/brunch at a diner. You suggest meeting up at a place that's centrally located, and just pick any old place to have brunch. I check on Yelp and say, "Hey, I found a place that looks promising with better reviews. Let's go there. I'll come pick you up (with my car)." You are stunned, caught off guard, like a deer in headlights, saying "OK" without fully understanding why you said ok.
I pull up in front of you place. You step out. We introduce one another. I open the car door for you. You get into the passenger seat. I run around to the driver side and hop in. I look at you and say, "Shall we?" You look at me and all your fears are set aside..........