I'm a well-grounded, well-rounded woman of substance who, by now, knows who she is and what she wants, has her sh*ttogether. I'm a long-divorced empty-nester with one young adult child (an actor living in NYC), parented solo since birth. My son is my sun, though no longer the center of my universe. There's room for you.
I've worked as a clinical psychologist and university professor for 30+ years, with the exception of the "detour" I once took to revisit "the road not taken" by making my living as a classical musician, and the last year I took off to work on a book. Currently, I make music as an avocation. To avoid becoming "fossilized," I reinvent myself periodically.
I am well traveled, having lived in a dozen states and a couple of foreign countries, but also a home-body. I'm a "nester" with a knack for creating a soothing and inspiring environment. I enjoy being surrounded by beauty and creature comforts, not luxury. Simplicity is my aesthetic; clutter drives me mad.
I'm a vegetarian, a veteran (USAF), a valedictorian, a valentine.
I'm not a vamp, a vampire, a vandal, or vain.
I am healthy: mentally, physically, spiritually. I am rather intense/vigorous and have a high degree of emotional stamina. But I also know how to relax and decompress. I don't take myself or life too seriously. I'm a bit cynical, a lot philosophical. I appreciate irony. I live life with intentionality and purpose. I enjoy complexity, require order. I crave solitude and togetherness alike. I value relational intimacy and seek it. I'm a loyal and tenacious friend and lover. I'm fiercely independent, so I'll desire you more than need you.
I'm a "natural" woman: warm, earthy, sensual, soulful, spiritual, intuitive, communicative, compassionate, and comfortable with myself, inside and out. Always classy, often sassy, sometimes trashy. I am highly adaptive/flexible and feel comfortable in any and all venues, even beyond the "jeans to little black dress" continuum people like to talk about around here.
I can relate to anyone, no matter who they are or where they've been. I listen actively and intently, hearing beyond the words, reading between the lines. I speak the truth. I keep it real. Those around me tend to feel at ease in my presence. But I also have a quirky, offbeat sense of humor and a thinly veiled unconventional, outrageous, irreverent side that makes me quite a handful at times, probably not for the faint of heart.
I tend to swim upstream, run with scissors, color outside the lines, and even play in traffic. Consequently, my life has always been rich and full...every day a new adventure. I've taken many risks, made plenty of mistakes, have no regrets. Experience is everything to me, and I am willing to tread unbeaten paths. I'm looking for a traveling companion...and, ultimately, a soft place to land.
...you're a true peer...and yet peerless, exceptional, extraordinary.
...you have a keen intellect, a quick wit, an insatiable curiosity, a wicked sense of humor, an active imagination, a rich inner life, an intrepid spirit, and a cute butt.
"I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage and my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman."
~ Anais Nin
Q & A
Q: Why is your profile so long?
A: To test your literacy...and stamina. I figure that anyone who can't handle the profile probably can't handle the woman behind it.
Q: Why have you listed so many interests?
A: Because POF only allows 81.
Q: Why have you failed to alphabetize your list?
A: Thanks for asking. Will you marry me?
Q: Why does a fish need a bicycle?
A: If you're asking, you've probably missed the reference to the infamous feminist quote, "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle."
Q: Are you a feminist?
A: Not necessarily, but I just couldn't resist the irony of a screen name alluding to the superfluousness of men on an internet dating site.
Q: But do you need a bicycle?
A: Nope, have one. And ride it lots. But thanks anyway, if you were offering to buy me one.
Q: What about a man?
A: Yep, could use one of those. Got one? Know
Q: Why aren't you in a relationship now?
A: I'm in between relationships. And presumptuously optimistic.
Q: How have your offline POF experiences been?
A: Never ended up dead in a dumpster. Not even once.
Q: But don't you find the fish here to be swimming in the shallow end of the gene pool?
A: That's mean.
Q: How do you feel about that?
A: Why is that important to you?
Q: Why do you sometimes answer a question with a question?
A: I'm a shrink. Occupational hazard.
Q: Are you always such a wise-ass?
A: No, not at all. It's just a defense. Get past it.
Please don't let this non-exhaustive (though exhausting) Q&A dissuade you from writing to ask me a question that has not yet been posed and posted. If it's a really good one, I'll add it to the list. Anonymously, of course.
C'mon, you know you're curious....