I'm a well-grounded, well-rounded woman of substance who, by now, knows who she is and what she wants, has her sh*t together. I'm a long-divorced empty-nester with one young adult child (an actor living in NYC), parented solo since birth. My son is my sun, though no longer the center of my universe. There's room for you.
I've worked as a clinical psychologist and university professor for 30+ years, with the exception of the "detour" I once took to revisit "the road not taken" by making my living as a performing artist (classical musician), and the last year I took off to work on a book. Currently, I make music as an avocation. My life is both of art and mind.
I'm well traveled and worldly, having lived in a dozen states and a couple of foreign countries, but also a home-body. I'm a "nester" with a knack for creating a soothing and inspiring environment. I enjoy being surrounded by beauty and creature comforts, not luxury. Simplicity is my aesthetic; clutter drives me mad.
I'm well read, a perpetual student. I think deeply and speak articulately.
I'm healthy: mentally, physically, spiritually. I'm rather intense/vigorous and have a high degree of emotional stamina. But I also know how to relax and decompress. I don't take myself or life too seriously. I'm a bit cynical, a lot philosophical. I appreciate irony. I live life with intentionality and purpose. I enjoy complexity, require order. I crave solitude and togetherness alike. I value relational intimacy and seek it. I'm a loyal and tenacious friend and lover. I'm fiercely independent, so I'll desire you more than need you.
I'm a "natural" woman: warm, earthy, sensual, soulful, spiritual, intuitive, communicative, compassionate, and comfortable with myself, inside and out. Always classy, often sassy, sometimes trashy. I am highly adaptive/flexible and feel comfortable in any and all venues, even beyond the "jeans to little black dress" continuum people like to talk about around here.
I'm a vegetarian, a veteran (USAF), a valedictorian, a valentine.
I'm not a vamp, a vampire, a vandal, or vain.
I'm an introvert (INTJ) who can, nonetheless, work a room.
I value (in no particular order): words, ideas, inquiry, meaning, wit, cleverness, kindness, tenderness, grace, clarity, ambiguity, order, reckless abandon, introspection, contemplation, presence in the moment, passion, authenticity, intimacy, serendipity, synchronicity, stimulation, simplicity, subtext, substance, style, words that begin with 's', discourse, debate, growth, change, mysticism, metaphor, absurdity, irony, paradox, paradigm shifts, discovery, adventure, challenge, flow, minimalism, transcendence, and whimsy.
I can relate to anyone, no matter who they are or where they've been. I listen actively and intently, hearing beyond the words, reading between the lines. I speak the truth. I keep it real. I laugh easily and often. Those around me tend to feel at ease in my presence. But I also have a quirky, offbeat sense of humor and a thinly veiled unconventional, outrageous, irreverent side that makes me quite a handful at times, probably not for the faint of heart.
I tend to swim upstream, run with scissors, color outside the lines, and even play in traffic. Consequently, my life has always been rich and full...every day a new adventure. I've taken many risks, made plenty of mistakes, have no regrets. Experience is everything to me, and I am willing to tread unbeaten paths. I'm looking for a traveling companion...and, ultimately, a soft place to land.
...you're a true peer...and yet peerless, exceptional, extraordinary.
...you have a keen intellect, a quick wit, an insatiable curiosity, a wicked sense of humor, an active imagination, a rich inner life, an intrepid spirit, and a cute butt.
"I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage and my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman."
~ Anais Nin