Under "Intent", why can't they have "Open to see what happens" as an option?
I've lived in Europe, Africa, & Asia for the last many years, working with foreign aid, a few .com's, etc, but I moved back now to Los Angeles, where I used to be based before my world tour, and I'm so delighted to be back. I enjoy the bohemian atmosphere in Venice, but I've got an exciting job at Disney which is amazing -- I love the diversity and contrasts available in LA.
I'm pretty fun & funny, but you would have to find that out for yourself. We'll click or we won't -- I'm fine with that. I have enough female friends to know what a bad date can be like for a woman; I'll try not to do that to you. I really enjoy being very physical and passionate with the right woman, but not just any woman.
More about me... I've spent a lot of time on motorcycles and horses. Once in a while I even go out & dance. I like to write; I just finished a novel I hope to get published. I'm pretty broadly educated & experienced and enjoy chatting about everything from world peace to your day at work. I'm pretty collected in a crisis. I care about a few things deeply and have a few strong opinions, but I listen to other points of view & consider them. I'm pretty left wing politically (for the US), but as long as you're not in a militia or a black helicopter conspiracy nut, it's not a problem.
I'm reasonably intelligent and sane. Very easy going, no pressure. I don't have sad stories about how my parents didn't understand me or my lovers done me wrong. However I'll listen to your sad stories and give my appropriate sympathy. I'm a pretty good listener. I've got some fun stories, but I don't just talk about myself. I'm not the jealous or judgmental type and I still have good relationships with most of my ex's. Life is too short to create unnecessary complications or problems -- I can laugh at myself, and others are welcome to as well. All that, plus:
** I'm financially secure.
** I'm very good with intimacy, both friends and lovers.
** Very even tempered
** Don't drink & drive.
** Don't ever own a gun.
I'm not the guy who wants to serial-date a different girl every night. I don't want to invade anyone's life, but I'd like to find a woman I can relax with and be excited with, have a great time together, and see where it goes.
P.S. My screen name, PaulShrugged, is a reference to taking unconventional approach to life, NOT an endorsement of Ayn Rand's politiics...
First date with someone you don't really know and just met on an internet dating site?
I'd say something low key and casual, like a late afternoon/early evening stroll along the boardwalk in Venice. You can chat, get to know each other in a fun yet public setting. If things work out, you can drop in to one of the many beach cafes for a coffee or glass of wine -- if the chemistry doesn't happen you can excuse yourself; if it does, you can keep going for happy hour or a meal. I'm very much about going with the flow and seeing what happens.
That, or a maybe motorcycle ride on a Saturday afternoon up to Malibu and through the canyons.