I should first mention that I am not into BBW. Sorry ladies, but it is what it is and I don't want you to waste your time.
Let me be honest here first and foremost: I have been separated for four years. I have no inclination to reconcile, but I do not know when a divorce will proceed. Many people in this situation have high levels of drama, but that is not the case here.
As I read more of your profiles, I have concluded a large majority of the men on POF are a-holes and spend all of their time bashing the women. Maybe they are bitter about the way their lives are going. Maybe they had terrible dating experiences. Maybe this site is just their way at "getting back" at women in general. I don't know. But I will tell you I'm not one of these men. Don't let these losers ruin it for all the "normal" men here!
Please forgive me for this not being complete - I consider this section to be "under construction". I have two sons that are my top priority. While I like outdoor activities, I haven't made the time lately to enjoy them! Hopefully that will change soon. I have a motorcycle, and sometimes there's nothing like going for a ride to clear the mind! I am a sports fan and like to watch games (especially live), but it doesn't rule my world...although I do have 1/4 season Blazer tickets every season! Occasionally, I do like to go out dancing at the clubs as well. So I like to think I have a wide variety of interests - some of them are typical guy interests, and some are not. I can also appreciate a nice evening in with dinner, wine and a movie. I definitely need to catch up on my movies! Dressing up for a nice dinner out is as easy as dressing down for a casual drink at a dive bar.
Like everyone else, I'm looking for someone I feel is attractive. I expect no less from you, and encourage you not to settle! Intelligence is very important to me. And it's not all about book smarts. A good combination of that and common sense is very appealing. Open communication is key as well. So many relationships falter due to communication breakdown. I admit that I need to be less passive myself, and talk things out more. I am far from perfect, but a much better person overall compared to many of the men out there.
I like to think that I'm a pretty intelligent guy, but sometimes agree that ignorance can be bliss in certain circumstances. Conversations that contain wit and sarcasm are interesting to me. And have a sense of humor, for Pete's sake! Some people are just too serious! Laugh at some of life's mediocrities! It sure beats crying over them. Oh, and I have a pet peeve about spelling and grammar. While I know many extremely intelligent people who cannot spell well, it still bugs me a little.
I love music. I live and breathe it. I cannot go a day without listening to it. And even if I don't hear something on the radio or on my iPhone, a song will inevitably play in my head! I appreciate most kinds of music, but my passion is for hip-hop/R&B/Neo-Soul/Funk. I LOVE TO KARAOKE! Anytime anyone wants to go, I'm in! And karaoke is all about friends having fun, so you don't have to be a superstar singer around me! Also, we have some incredible local musical talent. I enjoy watching live music acts around town.
That being said, I'm a singer in a cover band that plays 80's-90's new-wave/rock! It's a blast, and I'm surrounded by amazing musicians. Also, I'm a National Anthem singer. I've performed at several sporting events, at the collegiate, minor, and major/professional level.
My ultimate goal is to be a professional backup singer for someone great, like the late Luther Vandross. I don't want any fame, but I would love to make a comfortable living as a singer. When I have the time (and the proper equipment), I can get totally lost in writing/recording/producing songs!
The bottom line here is I miss feeling passionate about someone, and I feel like it's time to get that feeling back.
I think meeting for drinks would be good. (I can drink coffee, but I rarely do.) I know you don't want to waste your time if you don't feel a connection. Worst case, you could make a new friend!