Jbutterfly88: Looking for a Nice Guy
Non-Smoker with Average body type
Sacramento, California
42 year old Female, 5' 5" (165cm), Christian - other
Black, Virgo
Jbutterfly88 wants to find someone to marry.
Bachelors Degree

I am Seeking a Man For Long Term
Needs Test Not Completed Chemistry View her chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Want children
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Hair Color Brown Eye Color Hazel
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 3 years How ambitious are you? Very Ambitious
Pets No Pets  

About Jay
I love being in a relationship and I am tired of weak ass men. Weak men have no idea how to protect a woman from drama. I just got out of a relationship and it was disappointing to find out that he could not let his past intimate relationships go. I believe that the past should be the past and that includes exes. Friends with exes ok. Sex with exes, not okay. I am not a tag along. I am a grown ass woman who is looking for a grown ass man who respects me and other women, has a great sense of himself, loves easily, and communicates well.

My perfect guy is confident, but not arrogant. Happy with himself and his own accomplishments and has NO PROBLEM with being with a successful happy woman.

I am educated and professional and would prefer a man with at least what I have or more. I am done with playboys, liars, confused, and distant men. I am dating with a purpose for partnership. Partnership (in case you didn't know) means both people in the relationship being: supportive, honest, kind, loving, affectionate, sharing, caring, doing man/woman duties (ask me what I mean via inbox), and building financially and being willing to make investments of time, money, love, and commitment in the relationship.

The guy that I'm interested in MUST BE EASY TO GET ALONG WITH and FUN with NO MENTAL SLAVERY (break the chains!).

I like to laugh and have fun. I like to do home stuff as well as travel. I am in love with the presence of GOD and spend time daily in a spiritual experience (prayer/ meditation, etc). My perfect guy understands the duality of being Christlike while trying to tame the humanness in us all. I am spiritual YES however I have flipped someone off... I am not perfect.

My perfect guy is not perfect but he's perfect for me which means that he tries daily as a personal experience to be the best he can be, make the best choices he can, and is conscious of the impact of his actions on others as well as lives by good principles and manners. He is a guy that has MANNERS and feels comfortable with himself. He has some class. There is a difference between being snooty and just having CLASS.

When I think of the perfect guy, I think of a nice, pleasant person who has worked out all that troubles him, has spent the time investing in making his life the best he can, someone who is proud of his profession and is ambitious and a leader. I think of someone who understands what being a man really means and what that means in the context of family and children and to society as a whole. When I think of the perfect guy, I don't see a specific skin color and he doesn't either, however he understands the world in which we live and can rationalize truth versus fantasy.

The perfect man for me is intelligent, established or well on his way, fun, lives with very few boundaries but respects others' personal boundaries.

Here's more about me:

I enjoy going to the beach, meditating in peaceful surroundings. I love exploring new locations, traveling, and long drives along the coast. I enjoy cooking and eating all types of food: chinese, indian, japanese, thai, vietnamese, cajun, italian, american breakfast, soul food, just to name a few.

I am creative, ambitious and competitive by nature. I love playing dominos and other games for a friendly challenge. When I win, I expect my man to take his loss with a smile and reward the winner with a kiss and sincerely mean it. I am passionate about helping others and encouraging them to be the best they can be by pursuing their dreams. I am a compassionate person and I prefer men who can understand the needs of others.

I like dancing, going to concerts, karaoke, photography, going to church, spending time with friends and family. I have the best time at amusement parks. I love live music and watching movies.

I love learning, reading, and writing books and screenplays. I love education and smart people.

After building a trusting relationship, I enjoy closeness, nurturing, and supportiveness. I like spending quality time, couples cooking, massage, kissing, cuddling, and laughing together; making good memories and happy moments happen.

My definition of my kind of guy is one who is well balanced. Someone who can appreciate all aspects of life and make his life happy. I love being around a naturally happy man, one who finds the joy in every thing and has a great sense of humor understanding that all things happen for a reason. He is also open minded and respectful of all ethnic groups and religions. He is kind, yet strong mentally.

First Date
For a first date, it can be as casual as coffee in a cafe or meeting at a bookstore or going out to a fine restaurant for dinner. If the person has great conversation, is interesting and kindhearted, he will ensure future dates.

Mail Settings
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Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke