Let's see, where to start. I just moved to Ohio, but with my job, I was spending a lot of time in the area already, so I'm not a total stranger in a strange land. My job can be intense at times, but I'm definitely treated very well. However, I'm definitely ready to make room for someone in my life. My friends say I'm always good for four things - favors, smiles, laughs and advice. My hobbies are really too numerous and diverse to mention, but in particular, I enjoy being outdoors and having fun with friends.
I just bought a house with 12 acres and love it! Plenty of room to have fun and exercise my DIY skills. Fair warning, I'm quite country. Yes, I'm well educated. Yes, I have an excellent professional career. Yes, I know when to wear a suit and tie or boots and jeans. Yes, I have a big truck, tractor and 4 wheelers, but I also have a sports car. I do like to farm, hunt/fish and shoot guns. I like being reasonably self-sufficient: I can grow my own food, reloading my own ammo, and make what I like to drink.
I guess I can say I want more out of my life . . . more than just ordinary, but don't confuse that with a disdain for simplicity. There are certain things in life (love being one of them) that are worth striving and struggling for; the real key is to finding that person who makes it feel effortless.
I'm not perfect, and I don't expect you to be; but, I am comfortable in my own skin, and I'd prefer you to be too. I realize I'm not everyone's cup o' tea, but I've grown increasingly frustrated with this site (and online dating in general). I think people take this way too seriously. Stop and think about what you've written in your profile about what you're looking for, and then make sure you're being honest. If you want to be superficial, or make the same mistakes -- go for it. Just be honest about it, and don't pretend to be something you're not.
Otherwise: Say hello. Get to know someone. Meet for lunch or coffee. If you stop focusing on someone from the past, or what the person in front of you is not, you may just find that person to walk through life with. The best friend who you just makes you smile like the rest of the world isn't in on your inside joke. As for me, maybe I'll find her today, maybe I'll wind up looking for her for the rest of my life; but, at least . . well at least I know what I'm looking for.
On a first date I would go for lunch or dinner, nothing too intimidating. Just a chance for two people to get to know each other, talk, see if they have chemistry. Then probably go for a walk or do something to change the setting, but still be comfortable.