Qualifications for the position:
Intelligent - I am able to read a book from cover to cover and actually comprehend at least a few pages
Fit - I can ski a whole day and still be able to walk the next
Mature - I am able to act like an adult most of the time
Fun - I laugh at something at least once a day
Caring - I have a big heart
Compassionate - I don't like to see people suffer, and feel bad if I am the cause
Thoughful - I am usually full of thoughts
I have had relationships and have learned from all of them. Have had a part in everything that took place, good and bad. Am very adept at taking lessons learned and applying them to future relationships.
What I offer you:
I will allow you to be you, without attempts to change you, shape you, manipulate you into being who I think you should be. I may not share all of your interests, but I will respect that you have them, and encourage you to pursue them if it is what you want.
I will listen to you. I may not agree with everything you say, but I will listen and respect your thoughts / beliefs.
I will care about you. If you are hurting, I will try to ease the pain. If you are sick, I'll feed you chicken soup. If you are happy, I will share in the happiness. If you are lonely, I will be a friend. If you are in need of space, I will leave you be.
I will be honest with you. I will tell you the truth, even if it may be hurtful.
I will be open minded. I will try to learn and expand my awareness on an ongoing basis. I will do my best to not be stubborn or closed from new ideas.
I won't believe in or expect a fairy tale relationship. I won't expect you to be a princess. I won't expect you to be beautiful all the time. I won't expect you to be in a good mood all the time. I won't expect you to fix my shortcomings. I won't expect you to 'make' me happy.
I won't be possessive - I rarely get jealous or envious, so if having a jealous boyfriend chasing you around is what you like, sorry, you won't find it here.
I won't give you self esteem. If you want me to build up your self esteem by constantly showering you with compliments and displaying my undying love for you, sorry again.
All of the above in return. Please advise if my expectations are unrealistic.
I would like to find:
a relationship based on shared values as opposed to shared activities (note, when I say 'relationship', the definition of that is up to us, I am open to anything that is mutually agreed upon and mutually satisfying)
a woman that is awake
a woman that is aware of and uninhibited about her desires, whatever they may be
a woman that likes and respects people, including men. This may sound obvious, but it seems that many women don't think highly of men. Am I wrong? And please don't feel that you have to inform me about the long line of liars, cheaters, players etc. that you have met on this site, or in general. I know there are men that are these things, but that doesn't mean we all are. If you think we all are these things, there are alternate lifestyles you can explore (lesbianism, celibacy, convents, sex change, other...) And remember, we attract what we project, so if all you meet are these types of men, then maybe an examination of what you are putting out there is a good place to start .... just saying :)
I am healthy (physically and mentally), have a good career and a fun lifestyle. I consider myself to be a deep thinker, and particularly enjoy thinking outside of the box. I am introspective and open minded. I love healthy debates, and welcome being shown where I am incorrect, as that leads to an expansion of my awareness. Having said that, it is all a work in progress. The older I get the more I realize how much more there is to discover.
I am attracted by women that truly appreciate and value themselves - that have healthy self esteem. Mostly, I'd like to find someone that is laid back, easy going, compassionate, low on the competitiveness scale, one who pursues her own interests without relying on others, but also likes to spend time with her man. My idea of an awesome relationship is one where neither partner tries in any way to change the other, where they both appreciate (and maybe even dislike but accept) all aspects of the other. They don't place expectations and burdens on each other, but simply live and let live, and find enjoyment and fulfillment on many levels in being together. And maybe sometimes they believe in helping those around them as much as they can as well.
I also look for women that are invested in personal growth. That view relationships as a way to enhanced knowledge of self. That see conflict as an opportunity for growth. That know that 'chemistry' is a psychological phenomenon, not a fairy tale 'this is the one' realization. That approach attraction, at least in part, in a rational way.
I would also like to meet someone that is courageous enough to meet online, without misgivings about meeting this way. Even though the majority of people on here may not be for you, I believe if you don't approach this in a positive way, there really isn't any point in being on here. Just sayin'!
I have a beautiful little boy who is with me half time.
I hope you will contact me if any of the above resonates with you!
PS. If you refer to your car as your baby, I probably won't be a good match for you.
PPS. If diamonds are your best friend, I probably won't be a good match for you. Please see: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5kWu1ifBGU
PPPS. If you consider drama a necessary part of your life, I probably won't be a good match for you.
PPPPS. If you are looking for Prince Charming, I need to inform you that you are searching for a character from a fairy tale. So maybe you should have a look for the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus while you are at it.
PPPPPS (that's alot of P's). if you are a sucker for sweet talking guys, and are wooed by what you want to hear rather than honesty, then you shouldn't complain when you fall for dishonest manipulative men. And don't say you want to find an honest man if you aren't able to accept his honesty. Had to say that based on a recent POF experience!
We can accept God becoming man to save man, but not man becoming God to save himself.
- Vernon Linwood Howard
The law of floatation was not discovered by the contemplation of the sinking of things.
- Wayne Dyer