Meeting someone for the first time in person is exciting, however, always take precautions and use the following guidelines.
We don't conduct criminal background checks on our users, so if you would like more information about someone before meeting them in person, we recommend using the Internet and government resources available to everyone. This can include typing the person's name into a search engine and social media, reviewing public information made available by government offices, or using a paid service to obtain a full background report.
Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location, and never at your date's home, or at a hotel.
It is best not to go back to your date's home or bring them back to yours on the first date. If your date pressures you or you feel uncomfortable at any time, do not hesitate to end the date and leave at once.
Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going. If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it fully charged and with you.
Always have a backup plan in case things do not go the way you expected on your date. For example, tell a friend to call or text you half an hour into your date to check up on you.
Keep a clear mind and avoid doing anything that could impair your judgement. When you’re fully alert, you’re better equipped to make decisions. Why not go out for coffee together?
Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if that means taking a taxi or Uber.
You don't want to risk having personal belongings stolen. If you're drinking, keep your drink with you at all times so it can't be tampered with.
Long distance meetings pose special safety concerns to take into account. Keep these tips in mind.
Ignore any request to send money, especially overseas or by wire transfer, and report it to us immediately – even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash: the sender has no protections against loss and it's nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money.
Do not share financial information (such as you social security number, credit card number or any bank information) with people you don't know or you haven't met in person.
Be cautious when giving out personal information such as your full name, phone number, place of work, email and address. You are in control of your online dating experience at all times, so remain anonymous until you feel totally comfortable. We recommend leaving any personal contact information out of your profile or username.
Use vigilance when accessing your account from a public or shared computer so that others are not able to view or record your password or other personal information. If you share your computer with others, disable the auto login feature to your account and clear all saved passwords.
PlentyOfFish will never ask you for your password through the site or via email, and we won’t send your password over email either. However, we will provide you with instructions to reset your password should you need help doing so. If you receive a message or email asking you to share your password, do not share this private information. Contact us and we will look into it for you.
Be wary of communications that ask you to act immediately, offer something that sounds too good to be true, or ask for personal information. Always trust your instinct. If something feels wrong, it probably is.
There are certain red flags to watch for that may indicate you're dealing with a scammer. Be aware of anyone who…
If personal details provided by another person don't seem to add up, they behave suspiciously or pressure you for personal or financial information – block communications with that person and report them to us immediately.
If a user is interfering with your experience on the site, do not hesitate to report them.
You can block someone from messaging you again by opening a message from the user and clicking on the "Block User" link which is directly under the message text. (Or, if using one of the apps, open the message and click the menu icon at the top right of the screen to find the "Block User" option.)
If you do not have a message from the user in your inbox, your other options are to hide your profile, change your username (if you're an Upgraded member), or hide your images by marking them "Private".
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