I'm a grad student at Oklahoma State and am looking to meet someone in the hope of having a relationship with some staying power. I enjoy lots of stuff, including photography, music, movies, graphic novels/comic strips, working out, kickball, and generally hanging out with friends. I went to the Norman Music Festival today and saw the Electric Six. They were pretty awesome.
I'm from Michigan originally, and while I've made a lot of excellent friends here, I have yet to meet someone special.
Stuff that matters to me in relationships:
Openness - I don't like to have big parts of my life that I don't share with someone. Sharing every detail would be insane, but I don't want someone to feel like I won't even discuss something with them.
A Balance of Clinginess - I don't want to be joined at the hip with you. I don't want to get married after the third date. I do want to talk to you and see you regularly, but I'm not going to get all weird if I can't talk to you every single day, or if it takes you some time to reply to a text message. If we have a first date, my hope is that at the end of it, we're both thinking "That was really fun! I want to see them again!"
A Desire to Keep Things Exciting - Let's go somewhere, or build something, or cook a meal together. Or if we're feeling lazy, lounge about and do nothing. But let's not just do the same damn thing week after week, year after year.
Romance and Chemistry - Lust, love, little love notes, carefully planned out romantic evenings, utterly spontaneous love displays, randomly pulling each other close into a deep-tongued kiss on the elevator
Stuff I Look For and Find Attractive:
My only dealbreaker - Be single, god dammit! I've nothing morally against polyamory, but I do think it's pretty retarded. Be single, don't waffle about whether you're looking for a date or friends. I've got friends, I'm looking for more than that.
Everything else is just preferences. If you're smart, personable, and not nuts, I'd probably love to talk to you, regardless of your weight or height or hair color.
But! I won't pretend I don't have likes - any combination of tall and/or buxom is pretty much a guarantee I'll think you're attractive. I don't care about your weight.
Nerds are hot. Know shit. Think about shit. Have diverse interests. Dorkish interests like board games and video games will not go unnoticed. :)
I'd prefer you were my age or younger. Not etched in stone, just a preference.
I'm drug/disease free, and don't have kids. I have a car, and my own place. In person I'm not as abrupt as this, but I figured I should be straightforward early.
As long as we get to know each other and enjoy each other's company, the specifics don't matter much. Perhaps the art museum's got a cool exhibit going on. Maybe there's a restaurant we both really like, or a dish we can cook together. There's plenty of ways to do a great date.