It would be greatly appreciated if you at least read the 1st & 2nd paragraphs of my profile before attempting to contact me. I'm humble & not shallow but my eyes like what they like, which tends to gravitate toward a very unique attractive look, usually of mixed ethnicity, or good writing skills intrigue me. I'm really a gentle soul, polite & not prejudice AT ALL. I really TRY my best to answer back all emails but I can't always do so as I am bombarded with emails daily & it's very time consuming. Just know that I am flattered & appreciate the time you spent sending me a message but to save time, if you send me one & I do not respond, it means that for whatever reason, I didn't think we were a good fit.
I do not work out AT ALL but I try to live a healthy lifestyle. As you can see from my pics I do not have fat around my stomach area as a preventative for future health issues & at the risk of offending someone please don't either. I'm not saying you have to be a gym rat just in good shape. I don't do ANY drugs, not 420 friendly/I barely drink. I'm not a bar girly but I know how to have a good time.
I have self confidence, self esteem, self respect & all the important self stuff. I do not need attention posting half naked pics but I have very few body pics so pic 2 is to show you that I'm not overweight as many men get a big surprise when they meet SOME women who only post face pics.
I'm not looking for perfection, I don't believe that such a thing exists. I DEFINITELY know what I want, this novel might give you a better idea of the type of guy I'd like to maybe spend time with. PLEASE read my profile carefully for what I'm looking for in a FRIENDSHIP. 3 things are important to me CHEMISTRY, PERSONALITY & LIFESTYLE. I like a man that possesses a STIMULATING INTELLECT & has the right mix of passion & deep-rooted hunger for the sensual side of life. I could be attracted to you like a magnet if you match my mental, emotional & physical energy; you'd definitely win a piece of my friend-heart. I'm attracted to guys with manners, a nice bum lol, not loud/boisterous & have no police record. Also no Man-whores or Attention-whores, basically a man who respects himself will respect me.
I'm a pretty chill/low key person but I have a funky, wacky, spicy & sometimes a somewhat offbeat sense of humor & I luv to laugh until your stomach hurts/you are making the ugly face with tears rolling down your cheeks from laughing so hard. You know what I mean haha. I know when to be serious but I can be playful & silly, a little flirty & a bit of a smart-ass, in a good way. I sometimes can be pretty shy but warm up quickly with the right person. I'm financially stable, very independent, self sufficient & I really luv living on my own enjoying my me time. Being able to be spontaneous & pickup/go, travel or visit friends/family that live out of town is such a free/wonderful feeling. As sad as it is some married friends are quite envious of my life & have said that if they could do it over again they would, which hurts my heart when I hear that. I've created this life for myself, there have been no mistakes in all my decisions & I have no regrets. I've had a handful of very long term relationships from a late teen into my thirty's so I'm not fearful of commitment. All of my ex's actually wanted to marry me so apparently I was marriage material & not broken ha! I understand the union of marriage but I didn't really believe in needing a ring/legal paper to show my commitment/love. I am proud that I don't conform to society.
My mirror neurons, empathy/compassion makes me very sensitive to the suffering of others. Yes I can get watery eyed watching the news & sometimes even commercials, don't laugh. I volunteer, recycle & give to the less fortunate. I'm soft to touch, easy to hold & on 'some' days pretty easy on the eyes, so I'm told & I'm looking for the same. Also looking for funky times but not like that, Geesh! hehe. Just some cuddles with someone who mutually agrees we are truly just friends. Looking to chill, kick it, link up but that doesn't mean hook up. Ideally at some point in my life it would be lovely to have a life companion but I'd need to be wooed by that special someone 'someday' just not now. I like honesty & speaking one's mind, integrity, tolerance, loyalty, openness/adventurous peeps, for ex: someone who thinks having sex in public is ok. Oh my! Did I just say that? I'm not saying I'd do that *grin*. High morals/standards are a MUST though. Someone not afraid of change, has a good imagination, is kind, trustworthy, affectionate/warmhearted. Did I mention have a nice bummie? I kid, I kid. I adore someone who is not afraid to show his emotions or is vulnerable. ex: not embarrassed to cry 'IF' need be. A true gentleman, for ex: opening car doors, walks on the curb side when with a woman/knows why he is doing so. Knows how to treat a lady, perhaps kinda the old fashioned type with a bit of a nerdy side. DEFINITELY has to be a NON SMOKER, preferably NO KIDS & NEVER MARRIED. At my age that's pretty slim but I like to be spontaneous & I'm told with kids one can't be. UPDATE: I've found many other nonconformists like me.
Being somewhat adventurous, open, affectionate, sharp minded, making people laugh/being passionate/sensual allows me to live each moment to the fullest. I embrace diversity & like to meet people of different ethnic backgrounds. I value honesty & deal in real life, real action & with real people. I don't have time for the liars in Computerland, plus I can smell you a mile away. Besides what kind of friendship would it be if you started off with a lie? I believe a friendship should enhance ones life not become ones life so no stalkers PLEASE! I've had my fair share of those/it's no fun.
There are no boxes for me so age is just a number, within reason. I'm more interested in the life experiences that have shaped you into who you are today. However, I'd enjoy being wooed by someone who is closer to my age or a tiny bit older but NOT a fuddy-duddy. To ME you MUST look MUCH younger for your age, have a good sense of style/hairline. We can't help the way we were born in terms of our looks but we can try to work with what we have right? I'm a one of a kind, unique lady who loves GREAT looking men though. Men are one of my weaknesses BUT I don't love all men. I’m rather selective with whom I lavish all my attention, but I'm not an easy catch. I like a guy that is debonair & silently CONFIDENT. Physically takes GREAT PRIDE in his appearance. I KINDA like a metrosexual type who is still manly & to me he has sex appeal & charisma. I'm not fond of body hair at all/facial hair (meaning a mustache/a big beard) sorry but me no-likey at all!
First time is more of a meeting than a date, however when the time comes, I believe that there is no real ideal date, or what I like to call 'outings' only ideal company. If you are with the right person then anytime, anyplace or anything can be a good first 'outing'.
As far as a first meeting I think a quick drink, hot or cold in a quiet place to get to know one another with limited amount of interruptions would be nice. Look like your pictures or you’re buying drinks until you do! HAHA! Jokes, but definitely in public to make sure that you are not a homicidal sociopath that will cut me up into small pieces or a stalker. If you are extremely good looking, I'll consider overlooking those minor character flaws *wink*. I just luv when the chemistry & pheromones are all in place. Ahhhh, that's me sighing.
I have many facets to my personality. I can be both an introvert and an extrovert/playful but if I've added you to my favorites it's because I liked something about you. However I may be a tiny bit shy that day, so if you like me too PLEASE send me a message, that way I don't have to ONLY admire you from afar. LOL If you are someone who swears a lot though, we will not get along so don't msg me. I do speak 4 languages: English, Sarcasm, Smartassism and Sexual Innuendos. But I’m not easy.
If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you won't give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. But that doesn't mean stalking lol. It's easy to take off your clothes and have sex; people do it all the time, but opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, and dreams, that's being naked. But in the meantime respect/special friendship is what I'm seeking. However, I NEVER make someone a priority when they only make me an option. I'm alone but NOT lonely. Not everyone who is single is lonely; not everyone who is taken is in love. One of the reasons I'm single is unless it's mad passionate extraordinary love it is a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.
This might seem like a long list of likes but I'm really pretty simple. If you actually get through all the fluff in my profile the important things listed I would hope are pretty much what anyone would like in a decent person.
As you can see I made this profile very long & a bit of nonsense on purpose for various of reasons.
IT'S VERY IMPRESSIVE IF YOU HAVE READ ALL OF THIS PROFILE, OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE AS KOOKY AS I AM & THAT'S NEATO! haha neato? Who says that? A dorky, geeky-goofball, that's who! ;-)
WARNING: Potential Addiction. Once you get to know me, I’m a very hard habit to break. (~_^)
Don't let my looks deceive you, I’m more than meets the eyes. Never judge a book by it's movie (*_~)