A first date should light and easy. No expectations and on equal ground. An easy dinner or an afternoon lunch is even good. Plans should only be for 2 hours max. If you decide I'm worth more than 2 hours of your time then a movie or walk in the park is good for extended time together. Sex is never an option on that first date! If that's all I wanted I can go anywhere to get that. If the date doesn't go well for you then at the end say " It was very nice meeting you but I don't think we are good fit." I won't be offended. Your time is important and valuable just as mine is and personally, I'm not getting any younger!! ;-) Please don't say what you think I want to hear. Tell me what you want and mean it.