First of all, NOTHING is perfect. So, in all honesty, to attain that casual 'who are you' rapore, I'd have to say a glass of wine and a walk on the sunsetting beach. Very simple, undemanding, warm and in touch the earth; kinda like me =). The Second date, on the other hand, would be a romantic, humourous, and candid conversation over a candle lit dinner in a trendy restaurant. You will expect rewarding intellect, laid-back interaction and generous laughter all within ear-whispering distance.