I'm looking for somebody who can be a good consistent friend to someone who doesn't make friends easily. I'm kind of quiet and don't like bothering people, and beyond that many people just aren't suited for me. If you care more about the latest so-and-so film than you do about learning, I'm probably not right for you. If you think knowing the history and discography of a lot of bands is important, I'm probably not right for you. If you'd like to sit down for coffee or a meal and talk about the transcendental unity of apperception, Godel's incompleteness theorems, the Bohm interpretation of quantum mechanics, the mating practices of the naked mole rat, or how the human perceptual system manages to solve the binding problem, then we should talk, and see if we can actually tolerate each other. (Of course, if you just want to hang out, these restrictions don't really apply.)
The most important thing about a first date is learning about one's new friend. Therefore, we should not go to a movie or a concert or anything similarly non-social. On the other hand, what we could do is wander around the park or the beach or meet for coffee or a meal and have a nice talk about the kinds of things that interest us. And if we end up hugging and/or kissing by the end of the thing, so much the better.