So I saw this great profile.
She's attractive. She has some fun pics. She has a full and sensible list of interests. And then, of course, a description of what she's looking for.
For me, the description is epiphanic. A quote...
"...don't be asking to go out on a date, to 'hook up', or any of that other crap!"
"I'm laid back and easy going. I love to have a good laugh and am always open to trying new things. If you also like any of my interests then hopefully we have a few more things in common and we can hang out!"
In my mind, this is a wise approach to dating.
So...that's what I'm offering. If you'd like some company, I'll find some time.
TOP SECRET: Stealing Jack's heart
Jack is an equal opportunity suitor. He's very open.
When asked what he especially likes...long legs (he's a 'leg man') in high heels, and long hair, on: tough, sultry, fun, smart, *chill,* fair-skinned [read: sun respecting] femmes (phew...takes his breath away), or women who possess any great combination of those attributes.
He's a relationship guy, and he's ready for a commitment. He hopes to find "the one" soon.
FYI, as a partner he's patient, understanding, loyal, and fun.
Approach with a smile and an open heart.
Again, I try not to set limits on the women I date.
If I had to narrow down what I like best...
My Advanced Search looks a little like this...
Age: 30 to 40
Search Type: Long-term
Marital Status: Single
Smoke: No [or I'll accept Quitting]
Does drugs: No
Interests: Music; Young at heart; Environmental responsibility
Users with children: I don’t care. I’ve met some beautiful single moms.
Body type: Thin or Athletic or Average
afishcalledjack's Meditations on POF
(Somethings ARE free!)
Girl's point of view: There are a lot of goofballs here.
Guy's [my] point of view: She'll probably think I'm a goofball. ;)
Most girls have a low tolerance for stupid messages.
Most guys have a low tolerance for rejection.
Most guys and girls should get over these things. It's a learning process.
DO be POSITIVE throughout your profile. I think most people want to add positivity to their lives.
DO WRITE anybody who strongly attracts you. Think somebody is out of your league? Pfft. Everybody makes poop--think about it.
In the worst case you will get more comfortable and better at writing. And you will learn things about yourself.
Plus, he/she who hesitates... fill-in-the-blank.
DO ASK hard questions, otherwise you will just waste energy thinking about them.
DO BELIEVE that you will find someone who is right for you, here or anywhere.
Lastly... Never... NEVER... N-E-V-E-R check the status of sent messages. Just be happy with what you've sent, that's what's important.
afishcalledjack versus the ladies of POF
(You write 'em, I pick 'em)
Headline top list
"Nice to meet you. :)" -- Top pick.
"Mess up my lipstick, not my mascara!"
"Is a rivalry between 2 vegetarians still a beef?"
"A baby seal walks into a club."
"I run like a girl....Try to keep up!"
"Laughter is an instant vacation."
"Cowboy Or Even Just A Hat"
"Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder."
"Witches Parking. Others will be toad."
"I HEART [Fill in your name here]"
"No shirt, no shoes, no service"
"Everything in moderation...including moderation!"
"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot"
"Oh goodie! Block options!!!!"
"Never give up...unless you're a stalker."
"Bad boys ain't no good, good boys ain't no fun!"
"report profile if image is too sweet"
afishcalledjack's Motto/Proverb top list
"Fear is the mind killer"
"Spontaneity is the secret to life"
"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams..."
I'd like to take a different approach. Forget the old first date standbys, and leave your dating rule book at home.
If you can relax and have a good time, that's a good start.