I'm here again and have had a life time of experiences in the last year.
Still learning and still searching.
The pics are a couple of years old now but will update them shortly. nothing serious has changed! a bit more grey and a few more wrinkles oh! and a few pounds but nothing too drastic.
I know my profile is long but it's accurate and not a bad read,
Just for the record, I don't care for the "meet me feature" on this site. I'm not sure what to do with "someone wants to meet you. Am I supposed to look them up and reply? Sorry, it's a bit too "out there" for me.
Sometimes I struggle with who I am and what I want. Maybe all the "real" people do! We change daily; not out of necessity but because our personalities are complex.
I'm kind of complex but I don't think I'm complicated. I want what I want and if I find it, I'm true to my heart and my beliefs.
Sure, I want the chemistry, romance and spark that we all want. However, sometimes I wonder if that's real of if I should let things build, develop and spark based on stability, responsibily, achievement, etc. because those things are also important to me. Humm, do you understand my struggle? Let me know!
I don't quite know what that it all looks like anymore. I won't close the door on possibilities and I find that I'm having to "meet" many interested parties to try and find him. Things on here are deceiving. Even phone conversations can be that way. I guess God had it right when He designed chemistry and attraction! It kind of has to happen in person. I'm getting a bit phylosophical, (sp?) but it's true, at least for me.
I love life and am attracted to men who think the same. If you are negative and don't see life as "sunny side-up", I'm not your girl. I'm a positive, caring, reasonably energetic, intelligent woman who is looking for a reasonably intelligent man who can excite me with his wit and humour, his smile and his tenderness for people and life.
I'm a lover all all things shared when in a good relationship and that is what I'm looking for. We could be together cooking, cleaning, looking after the yard or doing something much more romantic but the time together would make "the" memory.
I want a man who is emotionally available and ready to start something fresh because he CAN and really wants to make the rest of this life the most beautiful. Geez, we can still have it all in this time of our lives! Isn't that why they call it "prime"? There must be something special here!
I'm attracted to men who are "present" in the moment, fun loving, kind and can't wait to just get together and see what happens. I like a "boy scout" kind of man who is always prepared and usually not overwhelmed by the un-expected. lol, If you get a knot in your shorts because some poor driver cut you off, well, take a pill and call someone else. Life is full of surprises and I like a man who is good natured, easy going and doesn't sweat the small stuff. BUT, I also like a man who knows how to recognize "giants" and can slay them, when necessary.
I'm definately repelled by people who have an opinion on EVERYTHING and think they are the expert. I like a strong voice but you must know what you are talking about to have one. If you aren't sure, say so. I can be found sharing that "I don't have enough information to make an opinion." Therefore, I don't. That is honesty and I find it appealing.
I spend my time surrounded with people and love every minute of my days at work. When I'm at home, (I'm a cancer) I like to be safe, comfortable and relaxed. I'm not a princess but I'm not trailer trash either. I have spent years working to have a future and I would like someone who also has the same values and isn't planning on working forever just to pay the bills. I've spent my time supporting others who didn't have the foresight to make plans for the future and I'm not about to do that again. I like "responsible" and someone who is prepared to contine the journey in relative comfort. Sorry if that makes me sound like a snob but I want to travel, have a nice place and not be in fear of money. It's ment to serve us and not the other way around. I'm not a gold digger but neither am I looking to bail someone out of their debts and go without reasonable comforts. Sorry, I've spent my time with men who didn't see it is a blessing to be able to plan for the future.
I like to cook for someone, share special moments, and be emotionally and intellectually stimulated. Good conversation about "real" things turns me on. If you think feelings are boring, (mine or yours), we won't fit. I'm a very sensual woman. (That means that things that appeal to the senses appeal to me. Sights, sounds, touches, etc.)
If you are still reading then let's chat. None of us are here because we have "lucked" out in the romance department. We have made our mistakes. I'm hoping that we "collectively" have licked our wounds, learned and moved on. Si?
If I'd added you to my favourites, consider that a wink and I'd like to hear from you. I'm a bit shy at first and like a man who can make the first move. ;)
I also ask that you have a picture or two that accurately represents who you are.
One more thing, I would rather a message then a "meet-me" thing. lol