Well on the first date I'd meet someone where there would be lot's of other people and talk. Get to know each other. Then we could maybe catch a movie or, if it's football season - go watch a game somewhere. I think you can usually tell after meeting someone the first time if there's a spark. And even if it's not a spark, you can still be friends. I realize that people may be nervous when they meet the first time and not know what to say - that's cool. A stranger could be just a friend that you haven't met yet.