If you made it past the title, congratulations.
Seriously. My Hobby is my job, and something I love to be involved with. I'm a computer repair technician. I take them apart, figure out what is wrong with them, and break out a soldering iron when necessary. Now. I've been on or using a computer since 1982. I've been a computer gamer since almost immediately after that.
Look. If you go into a relationship expecting to change someone to fit what you want or need... then you shouldn't be going into a relationship with them. None of us have a right to expect to be able to change anyone... because we can't. We can only change ourselves. If the person we meet and become interested in isn't someone we want to be involved with as they are then we need to move on. This just means the whole concept of finding someone we can cram into a preconceived mold is just wrong.
**I AM A BROKEN UNIT**
I have baggage. Lots of baggage. Angina, Low income (Meh pay, part-time), crappy apartment, locked trunks of baggage that can stay stored, but still go wherever I go. I've got to work and save, and then fix this Angina... so I'm not much use to anyone once I'm off the clock. It takes time to recharge, so I can push myself at work. Why?
**I AM A BROKEN UNIT**
I just moved to Washington in the beginning of the fall of 2013. I'm looking to see if I have a place here. I may be able to create one, but time will tell. Not that I'm leaving it up to chance, but considering what I do, the economy here and all the elements in-between... let's just say that I'm keeping my eyes open for inspiration. Provided that things click, I'll open a repair shop or involve myself with an established one. I might even lend my services to one of the organizations getting computers into the hands of low income individuals... possibly even expanding their operation to include cities outside their current range. I currently work for a local Nationwide retail company that dedicate's half the store to EASY tech. *wink*.
What makes me unique? The way I think, the way I look at the world... my experiences to date. I've been an individualist my entire life. What makes me unique is a complicated issue. Some of my actions may be similar to those of others, but the reasons why are all mine.
I don't go to bars. I can't say I am opposed to drinking, but I just don't like who I become when I am drunk. The burn in the stomach initially, the stumbling through words (and the environment), the general loss of control... I find these things to be unpleasant. Maybe I shouldn't have lived in New Orleans for all those years? I am willing to admit that my issues with alcohol could simply be that I haven't had the right experiences with it.
I am a homebody. I've spent much of my early adult life moving from place to place, so staying at home really gives me that warm, fuzzy secure feeling. When you have gone and lived somewhere that people tend to only visit on vacation... you end up not needing to "get away from it all" nearly as much. I'm not saying that I've gotten the desire to travel out of my system (my recent move proves that), but I'll never complain about staying home. Of course, the fact that I'm limiting myself currently due to health concerns plays a major part in why I like to stay at home.
I am a great cook. I've been a line cook in a few restaurants. In my early 20's, my roommate and all my friends attended a culinary university (and I wrote a few of their papers for them, listened to them talk about what they were learning, etc), I paid attention when I was working in a restaurant in New Orleans. I enjoy the science behind cooking, and I find creating something new and delicious to be very rewarding. I also know how to cook healthy when I have a kitchen AND the food to cook in it. I'm losing weight now, and I know how to make that work for others too.
I am a problem-solver. I'd call myself a diagnostician, but that is a term typically applied to doctors and others in the medical field. Being able to analyze a situation (computer, car, conversation, etc.) and break it down into individual parts, and then examine those constituent parts to find where the problems are... I've spent the majority of my life doing this and getting better at it. I am human, however. This super power is difficult to apply to myself and issues I have an extreme emotional investment in. But hey.. even therapists need to see other therapists.
I am a firm believer in equality. Note, this is not the same as being identical. People can be different, but equal. I do NOT believe that any person or gender has a specific and defined place in the order of things. I just believe that people should define what is fair in a relationship, and then both should hold themselves accountable to that standard. The keys here are that what is considered fair should be flexible enough to survive a conversation on the subject. For example, a partner who says that they will not ever stand for raised voices, must never raise their voice. However, if they do insist on raising their voice, then they need to revisit that demand that no one else ever do so as well. Fairness and equality. It is easy to understand and agree with, and takes regular work every day to maintain.
Well... that's enough to make anyone decide that profiles are too long. I'm ready for the "OMG Book!" comments to commence. At any rate, I'm really on POF for the forums. I don't actively seek dates, regardless of the categorization of being here for casual dating. I filled all of this out so people can get a sense of who I am, if they need to delve deeper than just the content of my very opinionated forum posts.
I've never actually ever been on a first date. I've always met and gotten to know women in situations that wouldn't be considered dates, and by the time we got involved, it wouldn't be called dating.
I am familiar with the literature and movies on dating; I know what goes into one. I'd love to try my hand at planning one, but I really believe that it would require a basic level of research. Taking a first date to an amusement park when she gets sick on rides would be a disaster. Trying to *find* an amusement park when there isn't one within a few hours ride would also be problematic. A first date should be somewhere both people are comfortable, so that there is the lowest level of tension possible. Going somewhere loud and boisterous is great... just not so much when you are trying to get to know someone. So... ask questions first, and plan the first date. That's the route I'd follow.