I've been on POF/other dating sites for the better part of a decade and I've met some -amazing- people. From casual flings, to lifelong friends, to the mother of my soon-to-be-3-year-old daughter. Mistakes have been made, lessons have been learned, and in a very real sense I am still in the process of becoming. I'm at a stage in my life where I know exactly what I need and it's not something that's going to happen overnight. I'm not interested in dating for the sake of dating, or for the sake of hooking up. I've seen how that ends, and it just doesn't fit my long term goals. Instead, it needs to start with someone I can talk to. That's it, simple and innocuous. There is nothing more attractive then a woman who is engaging and easy to talk to. It is the only foundation that a real and lasting friendship can be built on, and only then can it escalate into something deeper and more permanent based on chemistry and passion combined.
Humor - I am playful and I have a sarcastic and unique humor bordering on the dark side. Not everyone gets it, and that's okay. But if we can laugh together consistently, it goes a long way.
Career - Network analyst by day, bartender by night. I just completed my CCNA and plan on expanding my technical background significantly further over the next year. Education is sexy all around. Show me your ambition and infatuate me.
Family oriented - Absolutely required. I am, you should be too. My daughter is my entire world, whenever I am not at work. If I do spend time alone with another adult, it's because I specifically carved out time to do so. Consider it a compliment.
Attitude - "If something is troubling you, ask yourself whether or not there is anything you can do about it. If there is, there is no need to worry. If there is not, there is also no need to worry." No matter what obstacles life presents, I cling to a positive and upbeat attitude -religiously-. I am single right now, and I am happier then I have ever been in my life. I'm not seeking out a relationship to complete me or fill a hole, but rather so one day I will have someone like minded to share this with. Conversely, negative energy is my kryptonite and nothing kills attraction quicker. Whether you had a terrible ex that did you wrong, or your work situation isn't optimal, or you're having financial or personal struggles....by all means, come home to me and vent. Show me vulnerable and I will comfort you. When you are overwhelmed and your light gets dim, I will find a way to renew you. But I cannot and will not endure toxic or negative energy, and it amazes me how many women embed it directly into their profiles if not their titles themselves.
Hobbies - I come from a gaming background, mostly PC but retro consoles will always hold a place in my heart. I typically spend the evening hours having a few drinks and playing around online. I am in -love- with vegetable gardening, even if i'm particularly talented at it. Everything dies...a lot. But I'll get there. I also love cooking new foods and recipes, but I don't get to as often as I like. Beyond that, its adventure after adventure. Whether its comic conventions, festivals, concerts, museums, nature sanctuaries, kayak trails, beaches, any new experience I can share with a toddler.
Light Judeo-Christian values
Education - I have always had a weak spot for nurses and schoolteachers.
Tattoos/piercings - one or two little ones is fine. Anything beyond that gets progressively less attractive.
Smokers - I've been a smoker since I was 18 and I quit for good in 2015. It's not something I'm looking to revisit.
Puns (Can we all just agree that they're the lowest form of humor?)
If you received a message from me, it's because something about you interested me. I understand that you may or may not respond. You may be busy, you very likely receive many other messages, or you may genuinely not be interest. It wont offend me, however I will invest significantly more time and effort once you've shown that you are receptive and willing to match said effort.
If you're still reading, please believe that you are simultaneously gorgeous and affecting. Even if we never spark in any significant way, I want to know you.