My sister in law keeps bothering me to join this site cause she found her boyfriend off of here and they have been together for over a year. It's been 3 years since my husband passed so its about time I find a friend to go out with and have some fun.
I would like to meet a Christian man for myself and since my friend won't sign up I'm hoping he has a Christian male friend for her too so we can double date. Not all the time just some times.
I'm 43 and I have no kids but I do have a dog and 2 cats. My dog is my best friend, he goes everywher with me, he is my child, and he is spoiled rotten. He is my protector and if he doesn't like you he will let you know it. Dogs are great judges of character, so if your dog doesn't like who you are dating move on.
I do have Stage 4 Cancer. The last scans came back really good so it seems to be working. Right now I have chemo treatments so I have no hair, eye lashes, or eye brows. I put a before and after picture up so I'm anxious to see who will take the time to get to know me. If you can't love me at my worst then you can't love me at my best.
I'm independent, self sufficient, and head strong. I love to laugh. I look for a man that is as smart as me or smarter, that likes to be challenged, like to teach and be tought, and who can make me laugh. I was hoping to possibly meet a widower since I'm a widow only cause they would know what its like to lose your soul mate. I don't have kids and would prefer someone without kids but if they are grown and you don't support them then I can deal with that I guess. I like to do things such as sharks teeth hunt, shrimp, metal detect, pan for gold or gems, I absolutely love to eat and I'm a damn fine cook. However, I do not cook like they do on tv with those pathetic meals that are one bite or decorated to the hilt. I DO NOT like Sushi, onions, peppers, mushrooms, olives, and a bunch of other foods. I'm a southern girl and cook southern food.
I am fat. I could put full figure but why bother, its called fat. Not super huge, just fat. I need to lose the 30 lbs I put on with the chemo treatments. I've had several negative comments already and what was the funniest is obviously they haven't looked in the mirrror lately. Fat people can lose weight but you can't change ugly. Anyway I feel I am blessed with the rejections because that's one less AH in my life. I think its absolutely pathetic that people let society dictate what is acceptable and what isn't. Fat people deserve to be loved too. Regardless of popular belief not all people can be skinny. Some just can not lose weight. Many people aren't fat cause all they do is shovel food in all day long, there are many other issues at hand. How come size 44 men are acceptable but size 44 women are not? And to the men that make the comments about "if women can't control their weight and they let themselves go then imagine what else in their lives that will be a mess and unmanageable?" Well I'm here to tell you they have their lives together. Fat women have had to endure cruelty, belittling, joking, backbiting, prejudice, redicule, heartbreaking comments, and all sorts of other horrible treatment, but what didn't kill them made them stronger, therefore they excell at many many things. What are you men going to do when your wives gain a ton of weight after having kids? Are you going to divorce them like all the rest? I didn't know you married her for her looks, I thought it was for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, to death do you part? That just goes to show how shallow ya'll are and that you only married her for her body, not for her; she's the same person just fatter. What would you do if they lost a limb or became paralyzed?
I like to dress comfortably. I don't try to be anything I'm not. I'm just me. Take me or leave me. I do not like men, or women, that smack their food, and burping or beltching is gross, if it can't be helped just say excuse me. Blowing your nose in restaurants is a no no. It doesn't gross me out but it does offend others.
I WILL NOT date any man that wears their pants around their knees with their boxers showing, or anything else showing, or that wear pants 3 sizes too big with a belt and then they still have to walk with their legs spread wide apart to try and hold them up. Why men think this is attractive I will never know. Its a total turn off and the girls can't make enough negative comments about it.
I do prefer someone my age up to I guess about 54, and that's at least 5' 6" or taller. Other than that I guess it doesn't matter. Now as for my friend Linda. To put it bluntly she's a beautiful blonde, age 61 or 2, I think, very pretty, always dressed and made up perfectly. She too is a widow and Christian. She has grown kids. I think she's like 5' 9 or 10. She's not fat she's got a nice shape. I know she would want someone around her age or a little older, and someone her height or taller. Oh yeah, I do need a man that works and can support himself and so does she. NO FREELOADERS for either of us. I don't think either one of us cares if a man is rich or not, however we would like for them to be able to treat us to a night out, or day out. I'm not high maintenance, I'm not trendy, I don't shop in the malls, I am frugal. I used ot tell my husband as long as I have a roof over my head, a decent car to drive, and the bills are paid then I'm happy. I clip coupons and I look for deals. Must haves are honesty, humor, morals, self worth, strength,and most importantly you need to have a relationship with God.