New observation: I just read 3 profiles on here that state they want a man who doesn't care what a woman looks like because looks fade and then in the very next sentence say they want someone handsome and/or someone really fit. WTF????? Said women in profiles were not all that in the looks department which makes my mind reel at how some people can become such deluded hypocrites. I seriously fear for humanity if this is the kind of fools people are raising.
POF has taught me that if women were as obsessed with spelling as their height with heels on in their profiles, POF would look a lot less idiotic. LOL. If you're so insecure in your femininity that this is mentioned in your profile, you're just sad. It's also shown me that lots of really unappealing women seem to constantly complain on their profiles about men they meet only wanting one thing. I'll just assume there are a lot of desperate, blind and deaf males on dating sites if this is true. The funny thing is if you genuinely aren't after sex and actually want to get to know them, women seem to be offended and confused. Sorry ladies, some men actually want to find out if someone is mentally compatible before we fall all over ourselves to stroke your giant egos.
Now to the actual profile...
I like a woman who is intelligent, with a good sense of humor. Offbeat sense of humor and sarcastic wit are welcome :). I'm a live and let live kind of person in a relationship and prefer someone with the same attitude. I like a strong person who can take charge if need be, but don't like bossy women who create needless drama or try to control the person they're with. I see it a lot and it doesn't fly with me and it WILL get ugly if someone does that to me. I don't do that to others and I expect the same in return. It shows a COMPLETE lack of respect and caring towards the person you're with. I leave quick at the first sign of this type of abusive behavior because I'm not submissive in the least. I like women who are content with themselves and their age. If you have a really unbalanced age range on your profile I won't be interested. I don't plan on dating someone my age only to have them hovering around a high school looking for their next teenager to seduce because they noticed a new wrinkle on my face. There are WAY too many profiles like that on this site. Creepy doesn't begin to describe these women.
Physically I guess I wouldn't say I have a specific "type" of person I'm attracted to. Different things are appealing about different people though, so I'm fairly open minded. I'm open to dating other races as well. I'm not really big on tattoos and find too many of them start to look trashy. (They aren't really a sign of individuality or anything meaningful if everybody's getting them. Ironically, they just make people look unoriginal and like they're just following everybody else these days).
I do like to exercise but I'm not the type that expects the person I'm with to do it if it's not their thing and I'm not a fanatic about it. I feel it's the healthy thing to do for me (especially now that I'm ancient. lol). I'd prefer someone with no kids or adult kids, but I'm flexible depending on the type of attitude that children might have about people dating their parent.
I have a wide variety of interests that range from artistic to nerdy to outdoorsy (is that a word?). I'm a passionate person in almost everything I do and can be opinionated about certain things (should have noticed that by now) but I'm a good listener and value my partner's opinions as well. I like a wide variety of music and always keep an ear out for new things I may be interested in. I don't find too many current artists appealing (there seems to be a complete lack of originality and real musicians for the most part)and I don't usually find most club music or hip hop appealing due to it's (mostly)lack of musical talent, crassness and lack of creativity. I'm fond of classic rock, older R&B, funk and soul music and some rap if it actually contains any meaning and doesn't just repeat the words "yeaa", "wave your hands in the air", or support spousal abuse and treating women like garbage as if it's some sort of recreational activity.
Personalities that mesh and good conversation with some common interests are usually the most attractive qualities to me. I am looking for a real relationship with one honest person who is willing to devote the time to making it work. I don't believe in flings or one night stands. Sex without attachment or some sort of deeper connection isn't something I'm interested in. I'm very open to conversation and relationships with mature level headed people of any age, so if you feel like emailing me don't be shy.
I understand that there must be an initial attraction, but I'm not the type of person that believes in instant "magic" when meeting someone new. If you're one of the zillion people on here that say you'll only give someone a chance if you feel an "instant connection" you are SADLY deluded and immature. That kind of thinking is simplistic and only indicates physical attraction (really knowing someone and if you match takes a lot longer than 3 minutes) and usually leads to a shallow affair not a meaningful relationship. I think magic can only happen after knowing someone and being comfortable with them. If you are the type that's chasing some sort of perfect ideal or "love at first sight" we won't match because no one ever lives up to the expectations of people who have this unrealistic ideal and you will ALWAYS find something wrong with every person you meet.
Sorry if I seem a bit jaded (I was actually aiming for extremely bitter).
So after all the profile blabbing and all the checklists and the song and dance, I think it all just boils down to one simple thing that's desired (by most of us I think) but is the most difficult thing to attain: To be in love. To find someone who, when you see that person every day for the rest of your life, you can't imagine living it without them.