This is my second time using this method and in all honesty, I'm looking for a woman 35 to 43 (roughly) who is similiar to me in likes and dislikes, but definately not all the same. Physically I stand about 5'8'', weigh 170 lbs. dark brownish hair kept short. I'm physically fit, have a nice physique and am considered attractive (by both male and female friends). My interests are included above but they do include more. I'm very open minded, non-judgemental and enjoy new experiences and people. I am honest, up front and a keeper of my word. I love nice walks near water with my dog who is my constant companion. I have two grown children who live away from me as well. I am not arrogant, self serving but have a great sense of humour (sometimes on the 'dark' side), can be a little cynical but not a cynic. I love GOOD conversation and am well experienced through my life and all of it's experiences from various levels of education, to past and present occupations as well as 'the school of life'. I am very giving and sincere. I definately am a romantic at heart (honest) and stand by those whom I care for and about. I am loyal (to a fault), trustworthy, honest, caring, able to give and recieve on all levels, funny, fit, and always honest. It's hard to describe myself the way I'd like to as words often do not cover who you are. I've found that this can usually only happen in talking with someone. That way you get the 'visual' for real, you can take the time to really describe yourself and listen to the other person as well. I'm a pretty good judge of character and as a result, a good listener. As I opened with, I've only tried this approach once before and although results were positive for the short term, because of being able to get to know others, you DO end up finding what you want or don't want in a potential partner or friend. I am indeed a very giving man in every way, attentive, and yes, actually loyal with no judgements ever cast. I am always open and up front and who I am IS who you get. I am caring and have no problem ever showing, giving or recieving affection and require the same. In terms of personality, this is the kind of woman I seek...someone with these similiar qualities and values. I am a little 'old fashioned' but definately not prudish. I love to laugh and enjoy talking and sharing and listening to the person I'm spending time with. They always have my attention. In terms of other qualities that I seek, this woman must consider HERSELF attractive or 'a good catch'. Self esteem is a must. Everyone has a past or even baggage and that's fine just as long as it doesn't control your present...or future. That's where honesty and being up front come in. When I say I'm considere attractive and 'a good catch' (as described by my friends) I also know that I am. It's not ego or vanity, it's self worth. I cast no judgement on anyones' past or present because we all come from somewhere. I do prefer blondes and definately 'long' hair, but I like brunettes as well (in terms of hair color only). I don't care if you're divorced once or ten times. As long as you know who you are and what you need now. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder so I have no right to say I seek an attractive woman as the woman I seek will already know she is attractive. And I suppose, as I've mentioned, my main 'thing' is that we all have a good handle on who we are and where we come from...not that it defines us, but it is part of us and that because it is part of us, we are never ashamed of our lives, no matter how good or how bad parts of it have been. That's where being as non judgemental yet honest comes in. I DO seek someone for a long term relationship, but am definately mature enough to realize that this is built...over time and effort and doesn't happen 'instantly'...it comes through spending time together and getting to know about each other and being honest with yourself and the other person through that time with them and yourself in terms of how you see things going or not going. It's a must to have similiarities but it's also a must to have enough differences to make things 'interesting'...I am white or caucasion and am not a racist on any level although I do prefer dating the same, Asian, East Indian and European. I hope this is not found offensive in any way as I do not intend it to be. And again, as far as physicality goes, I do prefer long hair, nice nails, a sweet smile, kind/gentle yet playful eyes, and that she knows within herself that she is attractive. I've been asked about the 'nails thing' and for me it's an outward sign of how one sees or feels about themselves as well. Nothing more. And I don't necessarily mean 'heavily manicured', just 'nice nails'. No other way to describe that. All of this would be my only 'criteria' so to speak and again, this is only because words only say so much. More is said when two people actually talk, meet and are able to get a true feel for the other. That's how one knows (or both) if they 'click' or if there is a chemistry that could be explored. This is my second time so I do consider myself very new to this type of 'dating' but I do have a world of experience to give, share and all the time in the world to listen to yours and to get to know you. I chose to not use the corresponding icons because I felt that what I had to say and the way chose to put it pretty much spoke for itself. I do look forward to meeting 'someone' with whom we share the things that we really do want in another. Not to 'complete' us but to add to our lives. Only good things can happen. Let's find out....Thank you.
A first date would start with asking what the lady would like or prefer. Personally, for a first date, I'd like to go to lunch, not dinner as I feel that's 'more of a step' (the romantic in me) and that lunch be at an outdoor setting or even a park near the water on a nice sunny day...there would be no rush or deadlines to get back to so that we would have the time to really see if we should end up going to dinner. A 'rushed' first date or meeting never works well. Deadlines make it so you really don't have the time to listen or be heard. And I think 'first impressions' probably are important, even though it takes more than the once to get a 'full impression'. But with the first date one almost always ends up knowing if there is 'enough' there to want to see each other a second time. And for me, I am in no rush. I have all the time in the world to get to know someone and let them get to know me. At this point I don't have photos to put on my account but I will within a couple of days. But I can be taken at my word in my earlier description. I don't lie or 'expand' truths about myself. I am 'me' and all is expect is for you to be 'you'...once we get past the initial nervousness which I know I still get when I go on a date. It always leaves quickly but again to be honest, it still happens. Once I'm comfortable, it always leaves. Again, thanks.