I did a lot of thinking, and finally I’ve come up with an idea of my romance…
First of all I have to tell you something about myself, right? No, not right. I'll explain why. I see myself from inside, you, however, may see a completely different person. I believe that it's a very seldom occasion when people see others right the way they (others) are. Most of people don't know who we really are, and don't find it out till the end of relationships, and sometimes they never do. Of course, none of us wants for ourselves the type of relationship when two don't really know whom they live together with. I don't. But anyway, it's a little bit naive to believe that someone will be able to recognize everything great what you know about me from my self portrait right when he meets me. And, besides, do you really know that I will tell you all what can be possibly seen and learned about me? I will give you a great chance to explore what I am about. I can promise you just one thing: you won't be bored, that's for sure.
A while ago I already had a profile on plentyoffish, and it had a long illustration of what I like about relationships, the type of person I would like to meet, etc, etc, etc... Well, there were a little of those who understood what I was talking about.
For a long time I thought I had a vision of this person. Well, I know for sure, what I would and what I would not like to see in HIM. But life is not a clay, I can't just get the exact copy of someone who lives just in my imagination. But I'll tell you that. There are certain things I will NEED in someone whom I would like to spend my whole life with. I am not into any kind of marriage of convenience. I want to be with the one I would like to age together with, to love, to fight, to adore, to help, to be through anything, to raise kids and share all I can.
I was married once. I have experience of long term relationships and open marriage. I know what this is about. Being together takes a lot of patience, respect, tolerance, and, of course, love. And people call so many different things love! Love, relationships, marriage - all those aspects of life are very interesting and in the same time difficult to understand. I am in awe of young people jumping into being together barely knowing each other and they really make it happen! They just learn and stick together, and I respect them a lot. But when we get older, especially when we get some experience and joy of being alone for a while, it's getting harder for us to be tolerant and deal with others' freaking "identities". We are not used to deal with someone's rushing into our lives. We've got used to "the comfort" of being alone. Inertness makes us rigid to adjusting, and relationship is always an adjustment. Even to someone we truly love.
And it may take twice as much for us to go through the first rough period of this kind of adjustment - more wisdom, more patience, more love. But there are certain things which some of us will never be able to tolerate. We would prefer to stay alone than go for someone who - we know for sure - will not have those special qualities we really need in our significant other. And we all have those lists.
So, here is mine. And I will not talk about anything I do NOT want to see in my beloved or feel in my relationship. I will talk about what I need, want, and look for.
He is… someone who knows what he wants and what he loves in his life, he has goals, or vision, or something he's heading towards. I assume he would look in his future insatiable for what this incredible life can bring to him. I picture him as someone who loves water, boating, swimming, or driving, flying, - traveling. He has friends and loves people. He is funny. Laughing, joking. Easy, open, light, and kind.
Smart. I don't care about degrees. I have a bachelor's, but my knowledge will be probably enough for the PhD. Who knows. I like studying, but I'm just not obsessed with a piece of paper proving that I am knowledgeable and cultural. I don't need a paper to know I am. I don't need him to have a PhD. But I need him to be a very interesting person, who likes reading, exploring, learning. He knows about the power of positive thinking, and personal growth is very important for him. I need to share my thoughts, my beliefs with him. Intellectual, intelligent communication is pretty important for me. I am fond of movies an it would be great to be together with someone who shares this passion of mine.
He is tender and caring. He is The Man - once and for all. He understands the unique nature of a female entity, knows how different she is, that she needs your touch all the time, that she feels your love through the touch and through your words, that she needs to feel your hands and your body…
I imagine that I will always feel an endless desire for him, and a wish to touch and kiss. To me sex is not the way to alleviate tension, but the communication, sharing tenderness and love, the way to merge with Love and Existence. The way to learn a person who’s next to me, the passion, to feel two as one, totally dissolve my ego in an endless journey of Love.
He’s a white man 30-48 years old, taller than 5'9", average body, dark hair, no facial hair. The visual picture is somewhat important, but I am open regarding the looks.