I am looking for a relationship. I could have said that I am looking for a partner or soul mate or lover of my life! But I chose to say friend because i believe that friendship is the best place to find all those other wonderful things. To genuinely like who and what the other is, to enjoy spending time together, to laugh easily at the same things, to share all those secret places of the heart.... even the dark spaces..... and feel safe to do so, that is what friendship means to me. In this garden true love can blossom.
I have lived the past 40 years in a self built log house on the banks of the upper fraser river. The land and the river have been the constant in my life. I raised 4 children and they have given me 10 grandchildren..... so far. I am close to my children, and I adore the next generation immensely.
I have worked hard physically on the land, and have travelled extensively in many exotic parts of the world..... as a family in the early days, and later by myself. Always I have returned to the garden, which is the passion of my life. Though i love the land, and all the sounds and silences of living in nature, I am willing to change location and llifestyle if the right opportunity presented itself. I think perhaps the best way to open to a new relationship is to create something new to both parties, so it wouldnt feel like one was moving into another persons life and dream. A new dream might be a good thing.
The qualities that i most admire in another person are: first of all, integrity. Nothing is possible if we are not integrated with all the parts of ourself. I look for and appreciate total honesty even in the little things. I also appreciate boldness, proaction........ a belief that anything can be accomplished if one puts ones mind to it, a positive attitude and the ability to take responsibility for our actions and their outcomes. And also the ability to "suck it up" when the going gets rough. A great sense of humor is wonderful, very sexy, but one doesnt have to be a clown. Humor is often found in our failures and the little irritations that will always come up. And finally, I really, really appreciate kindness, not niceness, but true kindness that stems from an open and compassionate heart.
By the way, I am trying to cultivate these qualities in myself....
I am fit. I live an active lifestyle, enjoy dancing, exercising, walking. I eat a really healthy diet and am a great and innovative cook. I have cooked professionaly from time to time. I appreciate a fit man too. At this age it is really essential to have good habits like eating well and exercising so we can grow gracefully into this golden time of our lives.
I have lived on my own for 15 years now. I enjoy the freedom and lack of complications this affords, but it is lonely, and I am hoping to meet someone who would make me want to create a home together. This is not my first objective. The first objective is to meet a lovable guy and have a lot of fun getting to know each other. I am in no hurry. Slow is good. But if we meet and the energy is a runaway train.... well, so be it!
Enough for now. I hope you enjoyed reading my profile and that you will contact me, so we can get to know each other better. I will respond to every email, but dont know what to do with favorites notices or little wordless flirts. I hope that if I contact you with a messasge you will be kind enough to send just a note if you are not interested. That feels better than just being ignored when all i meant was to show interest in you. (which is a compliment)
Thanks for reading this. I wish you luck in finding what you need.