Ok, let's start with the basics..... I could have chosen any of the first three categories under "intent" -- casual dating, want to date but nothing serious, and looking for a relationship. They are all true for me, for differing reasons.... My experience so far with this online world is that I have not had a dull first date/meeting yet, I have had a few very enjoyable and memorable "flings" (the flight has always been worth the fall), and I've gained a number of great female friends (as a result of going out a few times and settling on friendship). So, all of that feeds my desire to meet interesting women (casual dating and nothing serious), with no attachment to the outcome but to enjoy the process and discovery.
Meanwhile, I've had the good fortune of having a couple longer term relationships emerge from my hanging out here, and I'd ultimately love to have a partner. I believe that will happen when and how it is meant to (one date leading to another, and another, and another, and... well, before you know it), but not if I treat that desire as a job and a goal. It just doesn't work that way... at least for me.
What all of this means is that I do not see these two sets of intent as being mutually exclusive, but rather of my being realistic, and open to the magic of the moment. So, I'm open to your intent, if you are open to mine.
Next, the dreaded mention of drugs.... yikes!!! I am 420 friendly. I don't indulge a lot (just went six months without it while traveling and living in Ecuador and Colombia), and almost always socially. If we are not indulging together, then I am not going it alone while with you. It's a casual dating thing I have with pot, not a serious relationship. If that's not a fit for you, I understand. Our loss, but I understand. ;-)
OK, now that I got those potential/probable deal breakers out of the way....... here's the important stuff about me.
Me..... Nice guy...... regular guy..... happy guy.... fun guy..... funny guy.... likes to laugh.... likes to be spontaneous.... good conversationalist.... interesting life stories and beliefs... good manners... good at being a gentleman.....
I have an open-minded, curious approach to life and the world, and live an active and adventuresome life. I enjoy my time the most when spending or sharing it with a woman. I am emotionally and financially stable. Experienced in age, youthful in spirit (adventurous, spontaneous, out to shows and nightclubs a fair bit, etc.).
In addition to work and a social life in the city, my favorite pastimes are to:
- Travel. I've traveled throughout the world (25 countries and counting), so I can find social and conversational connection with just about anyone. My love of seeing different people, cultures and landscapes is why I've recently changed my career focus to an international context.
- Be active and in the outdoors. I like walking, hiking, biking, swimming, sailing, scuba diving, kayaking, rafting, camping, climbing, skiing, and so on. Yoga too, which isn't all about the outdoors, but it seemed worth mentioning.
- Listen to music. Music is a very big part of my life (rock, Americana, RandB, blues, jazz, world, bluegrass, folk - musical roots gumbo!!!). Live music best, stuff you can dance to. I was a DJ at a college radio station for 4 years, and I'm learning to pay the mandolin. I like to sing too.
A day is full for me if I learn something new, laugh a bunch, remember to find cause to cherish life, be thankful for this grand adventure, and be part of what provides others the same.
Quotes or phrases that reflect my approach to living include:
Life is too important to be taken seriously.
Attitude: the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.
I'm not perfect, but parts of me are incredible.
Now is a good time.
Looking to enjoy time with a woman who is confident and comfortable in who she is physically, emotionally, socially and sexually. I greatly enjoy, sometimes even marvel at the feel of, an evening out with a woman…. good food, drink, and conversation, maybe some music, walking, people watching and exploring the sites/sights, wherever the spirit takes us. Or we can make a day of it, with some time in a park, by a river, in the mountains, the ocean -- whatever seems to fit both of us. Like I said, I have an adventurous spirit, so I am up for most anything.
If who I am is interest to you, I look forward to hearing from you.