For the first date, I would hope to go to dinner--doesn't have to be a fancy place.. I love pasta. We would have a nice conversation getting to know each other a little while we eat. I'm kind of chatty, so he won't have to worry about carrying the conversation. We could take a little walk or maybe go to a nice movie. Then on the way home we would talk some more, getting to know each other, if we have made a connection. If not, I would hope that we could be honest with each other right there and then. At the close of our 1st date, I would NOT expect him to kiss me on the mouth, or get all "feely touchy". A friendly hand shake and maybe a kiss on the cheek and a hug. After all, I'm looking for long term, NOT A ONE NIGHT STAND.