- me in and I want to read more, looking for humor and self-awareness among positive qualities. Many don't like games but like it or not this is a fishy game. Like fishing our choices are half chance and I add Favorites to drop a line in the water. When we see one another on the street, to begin a conversation I say or do something to start one. And I'm sure most would like a message they can ignore properly; though when I see little to nothing beside a pretty picture, sometimes uncertain what to write...lol.. difficult as it is to resist sending a quick 'You are so good lookin!'. And I'm wanting more... something to hook into.. metaphorically.. :)
And don't believe everything you think! My profile is long and to the point as I'd rather not waste our time with awkward first messages. I am an intelligent, fun guy, and find writing this page to be more productive than 1000 cold calls. I appreciate those that play nicely and most interested if you read me well and can turn the tide. And I read everyone, those that make an impression more than once. I enjoy those that are respectful, fun to talk with, takes time to enjoy life, can laugh at themselves and sometimes make me laugh. Beyond that will not suffer fools, unless worthy of pointing a finger and laughing a bit I get bored and slip out the side door.
I've held lofty goals, dodged deception and lies, and made good money chasing the American dream from the telecom boom to housing bust and financial crash now find it all too mundane to bother with beyond revisionist history. All this has not left me with riches but I have enough. And I've learned to spend less time seeking answers by better understanding the questions. You might say I'm doing my own thing reading a lot and writing a bit, sometimes between the lines. I'd like to write a book one day even if just for myself. My goals now involve freedom of movement, peace of mind and energy. Among other things I'm busy as cook, butler, chauffeur and gardener, as well as chief of fire and maintenance. Although I am a better cook than a maintenance engineer anymore.
This may seem a tall order, however nothing matters as much as I am chemically sensitive... especially synthetic petro-chemicals everywhere and in everything can make me extremely sick.. Rx drugs, cosmetics, fragrances, soaps, and foods. My diet is organic as possible to avoid chemical residue, additives, and preservatives in conventional foods. I don't drink often, a glass or two of good red with the right one. I smoke organic tobacco for calm and focus, real tobacco puffed not sucked down. And should you smoke I cannot tolerate conventional tobacco smoke and ecigs are petro-chemical. If you have no idea what all this means we might not work well together. It would be better if you have interest, better yet, knowledge of healing using foods, herbs, nutritional supplements and alternative therapies ignored by traditional western medicine. As an aside, I like animals, had dogs and a cat, and wouldn't mind a small well behaved dog, but can no longer live with cats.
I enjoy many activities and feel reasonably normal when not exposed to volatile petro-chemicals. An involved people person and leader to some in my previous life, since acquiring MCS many don't understand and have lost contact. My olfactory masking is damaged and I no longer do well surrounded by others. I feel better avoiding exposure to fragrance and solvents in personal care products some won't part with for even a day. And if I can't be within a few feet we won't have much of a relationship. To accommodate I may be found up-wind at a gathering of family, friends or community event. Most days I appear 'normal' and many have no clue when I disappear. I feel alone in crowds and more crowded in my mind when I am all alone. Google 'Choose Friendships Over Fragrances Youtube' to be more accommodating.. :)
Formerly a city boy, I now own my small home with a big barn in the woods. It was great to get out of the city, but the last few years there's been no escape from new asphalt smell everywhere many find annoying but debilitating to me, a little here and there and I lose brilliance to say the least. Sometimes hard to know what to do to stay or get away, and when it's in the air everywhere... may be you get the concept. I continue to hope for better summers, however if you live near significant pollution I may visit on a good day but can't spend much time there. You would enjoy time with me away from those places, and once you get to know me this may be a nice weekend getaway before leaving the city for good. And I don't want to stop anyone from contact, but more than 100 miles or so is just not realistic unless you're driving this way or in a better place, I might consider relocating.
I've traveled North America from Canada to southern US and Caribbean by air and cross country, but no longer tolerate the environment around public transportation and most hotel accommodations. That said, I don't do well always on the go traveling far away to experience life. And I haven't camped out since I'm here near lakes and rivers and would rather sleep in my bed. I enjoy my antique car and motorcycle for occasional day trips and like this area although road work the last few years has limited my range. I would enjoy spending more time at the North Shore beyond the Twin Ports and would like to drive south for winters with a companion. I'd do Burning Man if we stay up-wind.. maybe..
While I'd like to be with a woman that feels more girly than tomboy I'm learning to expect the unexpected. I would enjoy the company of an artistic, creative, interested, interesting woman that likes a variety of activities; feels comfortable discussing, learning or teaching and open to experience new adventure. You know to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and carry yourself to feel attractive and confident. A bit of lip or nail color are nice hi-lights, however I prefer au natural to most makeup. Although I don't have as much trouble with most essential oils and many natural, non-allergenic products. I am height/weight proportionate and desire you be also... I'm good with you a bit fluffy... :) Emphasis proportionate.
Considering all this and that, it is my intention to find the most intelligent and understanding woman that will give me the time of day, and then do whatever she wants for the rest of my life... lol.. The difficult part is finding out what she wants. And you might say I'm an optimist, because I am... I'm also romantic and a bit perfectionist for good reason, but don't give all that to just anyone. It would be nice if you just get it and bonus if you think you're a bit smarter than I think I am sometimes.. ;)
We must first agree on meeting: casual, low key, you, me, coffee or tea, something good to eat, nice little place, may be soft music, not too noisy. It will be easy to stay or move on.
I'm drawn to independent coffee shops and cafes serving homemade wholesome American and ethnic foods. I enjoy outdoor art, music, street dance and community gatherings and may try a small town bar/grill for lunch or off-night but must avoid processed foods, poor ventilation and crowds.
Plainly and simply some things are simply never plain.. :)
Many have no idea what they want or write only what they don't want from bad boys, and I'm not trying to hear that. And I can imagine the surprise to some that think they would never fit their story into such small boxes. In addition to having some fun testing text box limits my essay is a result of critical analysis of questions, answers, some hard truth and thought as pre-qualification to sort serious from curious and not get caught in endless email hell. I won't waste your time, you don't waste mine. There's no need to thank me, it's been my pleasure.. :)
I can joke as well as be serious and may have fun with a comment or question to break the ice. If there's life on-line, how do you start something? Contrary to popular opinion I am not a mind reader at a distance, can't type fast for *chat or deal with a rambling block of text XXXXXXXX! lol.. get to a point already! And without some familiarity, when distance from reality seems sometimes more work than fun, I may lose interest. So don't be fanatic about religion, politics, sports and who writes first. Although a hastily typed 'Hi how are you doing' reveals nothing to me except perhaps a lack of imagination. I've given quite a bit to think about and may not be a first thought, though things may get easier as you reconsider importances, show a bit of humor and for my curiosity please include the word ambivalent in a sentence or ask about my vow of silence... lol.. s'il vous plaît.. :)
Long story short, I simply don't have time or energy to develop cyber-acquaintances if we may never share a real conversation. And I am in no hurry, some days I need more time to develop abstract thoughts to words and action moving forward. So take your shot, try to exchange a few messages and I'll try not to waste it. Around here I am easily distracted; pretty pictures with vague, angry or negative dialog soon bore me and tentative messages hold my attention only a few minutes before becoming Who Viewed Me history. As Billy Preston once sang, You gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me! Minimum... You will need a photo or two and a few written skills, and may need a new fishing pole!
"This is because that is and if that is not then this cannot be.." ~Thich Nhat Hanh, Mindfulness