- me in and I want to read more, looking for humor, self-awareness and positivity among qualities. Many don't like games but like it or not this is a fishy game and I don't have the time or energy to write to everyone. Like fishing our choices are half chance and I add Favorites to drop a line in the water. When we see one another on the street, to begin a conversation I say or do something to start one. And I'm sure most would like a message they can ignore properly; though when I see little to nothing beside a pretty picture, sometimes uncertain what to write...lol.. difficult as it is to resist sending a quick 'You are so good lookin!'.
But don't believe everything you think! My profile is long and to the point as my interests show all the things I'd rather be doing than trying to juggle tentative questions. I am an intelligent, fun guy, and find writing this page to be more productive than 1000 cold calls. And fairly obvious when one hasn't read... well anyway. Considering the alternatives I'm doing well and update my story now and again.
My qualities and interests are varied and many but not absolute and I'd like an-other to bounce off among other things ideas occasionally. I enjoy company with those real, respectful, fun to talk with, takes time to enjoy life, can laugh at themselves and sometimes make me laugh. Beyond that will not suffer fools, unless worthy of pointing a finger and laughing a bit I get bored and slip out the side door.
I held lofty goals, dodged deception and lies, and made good money chasing the American dream from the telecom boom to housing bust and financial crash now find it all too mundane to bother with beyond revisionist history. All this has not left me with riches but I have enough. I'm learning to spend less time seeking answers by better understanding the questions. You might say I'm doing my own thing reading a lot and writing a bit, sometimes between the lines. I'd like to write a book one day even if just for myself. My goals now involve freedom of movement, peace of mind and energy. Among other things I'm busy as cook, butler, chauffeur and gardener, as well as chief of fire and maintenance in my 'pair-a-dice'. Although I am a better cook than a maintenance engineer anymore.
This may seem a tall order, however nothing matters as much as I am chemically sensitive... especially synthetic petro-chemicals everywhere and in everything can make me extremely sick.. Rx drugs, cosmetics, fragrances, soaps, and foods. My diet is organic as possible to avoid chemical residue, additives, and preservatives in conventional foods. I don't drink often, a glass or two of good red with the right one. I smoke organic tobacco for calm and focus, real tobacco and should you smoke I cannot tolerate conventional tobacco smoke, and ecigs are petro-chemical. If you have no idea what all this means we might not work well together. It would be better if you have interest, and better yet, knowledge of healing using foods, herbs, nutritional supplements and alternative therapies ignored by traditional western medicine. As an aside, I like animals, had dogs and a cat and wouldn't mind a small well behaved dog, but can no longer live with cats.
I enjoy many activities and feel reasonably normal when not exposed to volatile petro-chemicals. An involved people person and leader to some in my previous life, since acquiring MCS many don't understand and have lost contact. My olfactory masking is damaged and I no longer do well surrounded by friends and family. I feel better avoiding exposure to fragrance and solvents in personal care products some won't part with for even a day. And if I can't be within a few feet it's not to be a close relationship. To accommodate I may be found up-wind at a gathering of family, friends or community event. Most days I appear 'normal' and many have no clue when I disappear. Google 'Choose Friendships Over Fragrances Youtube' to know more.
Formerly a city boy, I now own my small home with a big barn in the woods. It was great to get out of the city in 2003, but the last few years there's been no escape from new asphalt smell everywhere many find annoying but debilitating to me, a little here and there and I lose brilliance to say the least. Sometimes hard to know what to do to stay or get away, and when it's in the air everywhere... may be you get the concept. I continue to hope for better summers, however if you live near significant pollution I may visit on a good day but can't spend much time there. You would enjoy spending time with me away from those places, and once you get to know me pair-a-dice may be a nice weekend getaway before leaving the city for good. And more than 100 miles or so is just not realistic unless you're driving this way.
I've traveled North America from Canada to southern US and Caribbean by air and cross country, but no longer tolerate the environment around public transportation and most hotel accommodations. That said, I no longer do well always on the go traveling far away to experience life. I haven't camped out since I'm here near lakes and rivers and would rather sleep in my bed. I enjoy my antique car and motorcycle for occasional day trips and would like to drive south for winters. I'd do Burning Man if we stay up-wind.
While I'd like to be with a woman that feels more girly than tomboy I'm learning to expect the unexpected. I would enjoy the company of an artistic, creative, interested, interesting woman that likes a variety of activities; feels comfortable discussing, learning or teaching and open to experience new adventure. You know to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and carry yourself to feel attractive and confident. A bit of lip or nail color are nice hi-lights, however I prefer au natural to most makeup and can not tolerate personal care products that contain artificial fragrance. I don't have as much trouble with most essential oils and many natural, non-allergenic products. I am height/weight proportionate and desire you be also... I'm good with you a bit fluffy... :) Emphasis proportionate.
Considering all this and that, I appreciate those that play nicely and most interested if you pay attention to first messages. My intention is to find the most intelligent and understanding woman that will give me the time of day, and then do whatever she wants for the rest of my life... lol.. The difficult part is finding out what she wants. And you might say I'm an optimist, because I am... I'm also romantic and a bit perfectionist, but don't give all that to just anyone. It would be nice if you just get it and bonus if you think you're a bit smarter than I think I am sometimes.. ;)
We must first agree on meeting: casual, low key, you, me, coffee or tea, something good to eat, nice little place, may be soft music, not too noisy. It will be easy to stay or move on.
I'm drawn to independent coffee shops and cafes serving homemade wholesome American and ethnic foods. I enjoy outdoor art, music, street dance and community gatherings and may try a small town bar/grill for lunch or off-night but must avoid processed foods, poor ventilation and crowds.
Plainly and simply some things are simply never plain.. :)
Many have no idea what they want or write only what they don't want. It is a shorter story but... lol.. don't you just hate that? And imagine the surprise to some that think these are small boxes. In addition to having some fun testing text box limits my essay is a result of critical analysis of questions, answers, some hard truth and thought as pre-qualification to sort serious from curious and not get caught in endless email hell. And may be explaination for those already there.
I can joke as well as be serious and may have fun with a comment or question, and if there's life on-line... How do you start something? Contrary to popular opinion I am not a mind reader at a distance, can't type fast for *chat or deal with rambling messages XXXXXXXX!... lol.. get to the point already! And without some familiarity, when distance from reality seems sometimes more work than fun, I lose interest. So don't be fanatic about religion, politics, sports and who writes first. Although a hastily typed 'Hi how are you', while an attempt at socializing in real life, reveals nothing here except perhaps a lack of imagination. In any event it may be easier if you reconsider importances, show a bit of humor and for my curiosity please include the word ambivalent in a sentence or ask about my vow of silence.. :)
Long story short, simply don't have energy for cyber-acquaintance if we may never share a real conversation. So I may give you a shot and try to draw you in if you try not to waste it. Around here I am easily distracted; pretty pictures with vague, angry or negative dialog soon bore me and tentative messages hold my attention only a few minutes before becoming Who Viewed Me history. As Billy Preston once said, You gotta have somethin' if you wanna be with me! Minimum... You will need a photo or two and a few written skills, and may need a new fishing pole!
Regards and blessings... go in peace.*;-)
"This is because that is and if that is not then this cannot be.." ~Thich Nhat Hanh, Mindfulness