NOTE: If you do not wish to talk to someone who does not post a pic, then please do not waste my time and yours. Just tell me right away. I do not have a pic to post at this time and because of my feelings about what pics are used for, I do not know if I will have one in the near future either. It is not because I am married or involved with someone either.
In keeping with the ideas of the philosophy of the Secret, I feel that asking for what one wants is paramount to getting it. Therefore you will see things that I do want, and not necessarily things I do not want in this profile. There is something to be said for positive thinking.
First of all, I want my best friend. (http://youtu.be/Us-TVg40ExM) I am a single white male who enjoys a variety of interests. Being single, I am also looking for that special someone to share the good and bad times with. I am always looking for a new friend, and who knows, maybe that new friend might be the one. This is why I have chosen Dating in the "I am looking for" section.
I am old fashioned in a lot of respects, but am also in tune with the current times. I believe in Chivalry and yet also believe in respecting others. I feel that relationships should be give and take and not just one taking and the other one giving.
I do have a lot of interests as shown above. I do things in the winter and the summer although I much prefer the tempered weather than the extreme cold or hot weather. I feel that people should have same interests as well as different interests that people can grow together with. Maybe you can involve yourself in some of mine and I can develop an interest in some of yours. No, I will not jump out of a perfectly good airplane...Chute or no chute.
There are a lot of things I have not done yet, and would love to do, but do not wish to do them alone. Some more traveling is one of them and going on a cruise is another.
The kinds of people that I would like in my life are....
2) Non, or social drinkers
3) Persons without control issues
4) Those that value spending time with others more than a one night stand
5) Communication and the ability to hold a conversation
6) Those that know the meaning of honesty
7) People that like board or card games rather than head games
8) People more interested in the person and who they are and what they stand for rather than how much they make, or have
9) People that do not want to have another daddy
10)People who feel that a relationship is based on a friendship first and needs to be built from there
11) Those that believe in unconditional acceptance
12) People that believe in Communication, Compassion, Commitment, Trust, and the basic morals that
ALL individuals SHOULD have
13) People that like to have physical intimacy...Cuddling, holding hands, etc
If you have gotten this far, then maybe there is a chance we could see what happens. I have a great sense of humor, although sometimes warped when I get to know you. I am looking for longevity and not a booty call, nor am I looking for someone that is immature or into head games. I like to chat, but much prefer msn and like to chat on the phone when both are comfortable. I feel the human voice can say a lot about a person when you take into account voice inflections.
I am a firm believer in that you cannot get something unless you ask for it, and therefore I do ask for a good friend that could maybe turn into more in time.
I saw this on someone else's profile. Thought might be relevant in some ways I feel so I borrowed it. I hope they don't mind, but don't think I could've said it any better.
A man was exploring caves by the seashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake. They didn't look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.
He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone!
Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him. He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!
It's like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn't look like much from the outside. It isn't always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it. We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy. But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person.
There is a treasure in each and every one of us. Maybe some will think twice when they look at profiles and do not know if they are seeing that "clay ball" "a frog that can turn into a prince" or something else. Sure makes you think about how we perceive things...doesn't it?
Some quotes I have firmly believed in...
"People are like telephones. Push the wrong buttons and you will get disconnected."
"Some people are like Slinkys.....not really good for anything, but you still play with them for hours and hours."
Sam Keen wrote, "Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”
A comment by Marjorie Holmes (Author) "The man or woman who treasures his friends is usually solid gold himself."
"Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous - not just to some people in some circumstances - but to everyone all the time." Thomas J. Watson
Some people put up walls, not to keep others out, but to see who will break them down.
I do not think that the first meeting is actually a date. I feel it is a get to know you and therefore not considered a date. So as a result, going for a beverage, Wings, or a game of pool somewhere could be appropriate. If at that time the two people wanted to continue, then a decision could be made.
I am a firm believer in communicating with the other person, so whatever we both would decide would be a good first date. Anything from a walk in the park, a Sunday brunch, a drive in the country with a stop at a country cafe, a movie, etc. The choices are endless and is something that both would have to contemplate.
Good luck to everyone in their search and I really appreciate all the nicer people I have met on this site. To the people that only claim to be real...get a life and try and act real. Reality, honesty and many other traits I have mentioned are crucial to a real relationship.