I'm looking for a partner. I am not looking for a one night stand or a cheap fling (unless it's a rollercoaster!). I am looking for an honest, intelligent, compassionate and loyal woman for what I hope will eventually become a beautiful, healthy, and life-long marriage. And yes, I just managed to fit almost every cliche of every personals ad in this paragraph. ^_^ I guess we're all searching for the golden fleece, eh?
About Me (Nope. I have NO intentions of standing out here...):
36 - jis like dat dare spiffy num-burr up top sez (O.o). *nod self*
Male - Sorry, ladies. I was diagnosed at birth.
Employed - I'd like to say gainfully, but I can never seem to have enough money.
Vehicularly Independent - That is to say, if it's running on any given day.
Polite - I was once accused of being overly-polite, but that can't be true: I'm not British.
Honest - My word is my bond. Fixadent & forget it! (ha ha... no. Hey! Keep reading! No, no, no... It was a joke! Dammit, she's gone...)
Romantic - I've been known to melt a heart or two. :)
Christian - At least, I think I still am. I honestly don't know what I believe any more. Some things just really change your perspective about the Almighty. I do believe in something After; I'm just not 100% sure what any longer.
A Li'l Chubbeh - Yep. If we're going down the freeway and a tire blows out, I've always got a spare one handy! In other words, I'm a Teddy Bear and not a Slim Jim. That's right – you can't snap into me; therefore, nibbling is required. (O.O)
Humorous - Well, okay. That's a lie (Or was being honest a lie? Maybe I'm lying about lying but I'm really honest, in which case, I wouldn't be being honest. Or maybe I'm being honest about lying, in which case I'm still being dishonest and lying, but just being honest about it. Are you as confused as I am?). I only PRETEND to be humorous. No genuine humor here. Uh uh.
I Got Game, Yo! - Hehe. I like to play RPGs (tabletop, not big into video games usually, but lately...), Chess, Hike (if I've got good company), play online (cuz I'm a playa! ^_^), and try new things. I am also fond of movies, and books, especially. :)
I Make Flowers - I know; hard to believe, right? Well, my nickname used to be Flower because of the 13 (more now) kinds of napkin flowers I make. No, my parents weren't hippies, I'm not gay, and I am not the skunk from Bambi. ^_^
Who I'm Looking For - She is:
Between the ages of 30-40 (I'm flexible on that, but I think that's a healthy range for my own age)
May or may not have children
Artsy (gotta have that creative spark! :)
Independent & Assertive (has pride in herself and stands for her beliefs)
Demure (While being respectful of those around her)
Ambitious (Not so much that her job is more important, but she knows what she wants)
Ravishing (You don't have to be a model to be beautiful. :)
AVAILABLE (Poly or Separated is NOT cool.)
According to the POF Psychological Assessment, which seems reasonably accurate...
What I "really" want:
According to relationship experts, what you seem to be looking for is a "WALLFLOWER." A wallflower is well-poised to meet the hidden or unspoken needs you might be trying to fill in a relationship. A wallflower is...
Someone who's frugal, practical and predictable -- even perhaps somewhat controllable by you.
Someone who doesn't make you feel like an underachiever, but rather who'll see you as an equal, or even a mentor, and as such will consult with you on major decisions and actions and allow you to focus on your own personal and professional goals.
Someone who feels no need to impress others and who prefers to focus on life's other matters.
Someone who's generally calm and content but who can also show spontaneity and go on the occasional adventure when circumstances permit.
Someone whom you don't feel the need to keep up with or expend a lot of energy in keeping entertained.
Someone who cares about her appearance for you, but who isn't high maintenance.
Someone who'll garner approval from your friends and family but not cause unwanted jealousy issues.
Someone who subscribes to the philosophy that affection is best expressed on physical levels but who's somewhat demure in public and prefers to keep her sexuality behind closed doors.
To increase your odds of finding a WALLFLOWER, look or listen for these key words or themes when you search profiles or talk to romantic prospects: easy going, centered, grounded, practical, agreeable, supportive, curious, life-long learner, respectful, sensual, expressive, accommodating, attentive and submissive.
I was a single father to an amazing 10 year old girl who unexpectedly passed away at the end of 2012. :( I have left the above intact so as to offer a reflection of who I normally am, but there are times now when I experience moments of profound grief and loss - as is to be expected – though these are most often when I am alone and have spent far too much time with my own thoughts. I am still pretty chill (and, I'd like to think, fun), but this is a part of who I am now, too.
I'd like to go back to school to become a Grief Counselor, and hopefully some day also help people using IADC. Currently, I am pursuing the purchase of a home, wherein I will be making up my daughter's room the way she wanted it to be. Once I've settled somewhere and fulfilled that promise, I will pursue my education with that end goal in mind (I am currently looking in the Toledo, OH. area for many reasons, family among them).
Lastly, for the love of God, please do not message me just to offer me some consolation as an excuse to start a conversation with me. I appreciate the thought. Truly. But please just don't. Thank you.