Age: 38
Berdusk: As lost as I get, I will find you.
Non-smoker with Big & Tall/BBW body type
Toledo, Ohio
36 year old Man, 5' 10" (178cm), Non-Religious
Caucasian Virgo with Brown hair
Berdusk Wants to find someone to marry
Some college
Comic Nerd
Direct Care

August 2014

I am Seeking a Woman For Dating
Needs Test Not Completed Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? Yes
Marital Status Divorced Do you do drugs? No
Pets Birds Eye Color Blue
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? No
Longest Relationship Over 3 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious

About Me
About Me (Nope. I have NO intentions of standing out here...):

36 - I'm afraid I'm beginning to smell of elderberries. Not so much, though; I must be fermenting, still.
Male - Sorry, ladies. I was diagnosed at birth.
Employed - I'd like to say gainfully, but I can never seem to have enough money.

Polite - I was once accused of being overly-polite, but that can't be true: I'm not British.

Honest - My word is my bond. Fixadent & forget it! (ha ha... no. Hey! Keep reading! No, no, no... It was a joke! Dammit, she's gone...)

Romantic - I've been known to melt a heart or two. :)

Christian - And NOT A Right-Wing FUNDIE! :)

A Li'l Chubbeh - Yep. If we're driving somewhere and blow out a tire, I've always got a spare! (-.O) Basically, yes - I'm fat, not obese, and have more of the "teddy bear" shaped body. I'm cuddly, dammit! (O.o)

Humorous - Well, okay. That's a lie (Or was being honest a lie? Maybe I'm lying about lying but I'm really honest, in which case, I wouldn't be being honest. Or maybe I'm being honest about lying, in which case I'm still being dishonest and lying, but just being honest about it. Are you as confused as I am?). I only PRETEND to be humorous. No genuine humor here. Uh uh.

I Got Game, Yo! - Hehe. I like to play RPGs (tabletop, not big into video games), Chess, Hike (if I've got good company), play online (cuz I'm a playa! ^_^), and try new things. I am also fond of movies and books, especially. :)

I Make Flowers - I know; hard to believe, right? Well, my nickname used to be Flower because of the 13 (more now) kinds of napkin flowers I make. No, my parents weren't hippies, I'm not gay, and I am not the skunk from Bambi. ^_^

Who I'm Looking For - She is:

Between the ages of 29-40
May or may not have children
Artsy (gotta have that creative spark! :)
Independent & Assertive (has pride in herself and stands for her beliefs)
Demure (While being respectful of those around her)
Ambitious (Not so much that her job is more important, but she knows what she wants)
Ravishing (You don't have to be a model to be beautiful. :)
AVAILABLE (Poly or Separated is NOT cool.)

According to the POF Psychological Assessment, which seems reasonably accurate...

What I "really" want:

According to relationship experts, what you seem to be looking for is a "WALLFLOWER." A wallflower is well-poised to meet the hidden or unspoken needs you might be trying to fill in a relationship. A wallflower is...

Someone who's frugal, practical and predictable -- even perhaps somewhat controllable by you.
Someone who doesn't make you feel like an underachiever, but rather who'll see you as an equal, or even a mentor, and as such will consult with you on major decisions and actions and allow you to focus on your own personal and professional goals.
Someone who feels no need to impress others and who prefers to focus on life's other matters.
Someone who's generally calm and content but who can also show spontaneity and go on the occasional adventure when circumstances permit.
Someone whom you don't feel the need to keep up with or expend a lot of energy in keeping entertained.
Someone who cares about her appearance for you, but who isn't high maintenance.
Someone who'll garner approval from your friends and family but not cause unwanted jealousy issues.
Someone who subscribes to the philosophy that affection is best expressed on physical levels but who's somewhat demure in public and prefers to keep her sexuality behind closed doors.

Go Fishing!

To increase your odds of finding a WALLFLOWER, look or listen for these key words or themes when you search profiles or talk to romantic prospects: easy going, centered, grounded, practical, agreeable, supportive, curious, life-long learner, respectful, sensual, expressive, accommodating, attentive and submissive.


I lost my ten year old daughter on (roughly) Thanksgiving of 2012. I've left my profile above largely intact to reflect who I (for the most part) am, though I'm a bit more quiet & somber than usual these days.

First Date
Basically anything where we can talk, laugh, and basically get to know one another sounds like a lot of fun. :)

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Age between 28 and 38.
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