After living in California for ten years, I am having my Okie roots redone. It's a bit of a culture shock being back in the country, 60 miles from the nearest Starbucks! But I survive and even thrive, much like the other native weeds. Already since my return I have experienced the excitement of an ice storm and 15 days without electricity. Who needs Starbucks? I now know how to make coffee in the fireplace!
The past 4 years have been tough ones. We lost our 16 yr old daughter in an accident, and then my husband and I lost each other. I am not looking for another husband. I'm looking for interesting people to enjoy things with. I don't want to go into relationships with too many preconceived limitations, though, so I will try to be open to whatever path we *mutually* feel like traveling.
I love having caring people in my life, and I love caring for them. I can never get too many smiles or hugs, and I get just as much joy from giving them. I really enjoy giving massages too, as well as getting them (duh!) And if you happen to be one of those strange souls who actually enjoy doing yard work, well hey, who am I to discourage you? I will volunteer my yard. That's just the king of giving person I am.
Seriously, I expected my life to be quite different at this point, but you can either roll with the punches or roll over and play dead. I prefer to learn from all that has happened and grow. I've learned to be grateful for all the "small" blessings of each day that we so often take for granted. I've learned that perspective is what shapes our reality, not the other way around.
What do I find interesting in a person, you ask? (Um, you do ask, don’t you?) A great sense of humor, kindness, intelligence, and an appreciation and respect for life in all its forms are tops on my list. If you have children, not only would I expect them to come first in your life, but I would find it difficult to respect you if they didn't. I have a grown biological son and two grown stepchildren that I helped raise as my own.
I am NOT interested in chronic drama, selfishness, manipulation, co-dependency, addictions, or perpetual victims. I've done my dance with those things and learned some hard Life Lessons. Now I'm ready for something a little easier and more enjoyable. Integrity is very important to me, and a lack thereof is a deal breaker. I won't be handing out any "Get out of jail free" cards for that one.
My friends will tell you that I'm funny, caring, intelligent, and a great bargain shopper! If they don't tell you that, they don't get paid. I do have my quirks also. I think Calvin and Hobbes should be required reading. I believe a good tenor voice is the finest musical instrument that exists and that chocolate is medicinal. I think a sense of humor is just as important for survival as any of the other senses. I feel great peace around rivers and other flowing water (unless it's coming from a broken pipe, that is.) I could sit by a fountain or on a porch swing just "being" for hours. I love thunderstorms and snuggling--even if it's just with the dogs.
In the interest of truth in advertising, I must tell you that the bit about "a few extra pounds" is euphemistic. I've done a lot of stress eating in the past few years, along with a lot of that "sitting and being" stuff. The good news is that I can do something about it. The bad news is that I'd have to abandon sugar and break its heart, and I don't know if I could handle the guilt.
Nutrisystem says it sincerely wants to be my friend and that it's not just about the money, but I've been burned by non-sweet talkers like that before. I guess I should take a chance one more time though. Maybe the good carbs really do like me for me!
Overall, (which is different from and not to be confused with overalls,) I'm pretty comfortable with myself at this point in my life (FINALLY!) So I prefer others that are, too. We don't need to march in lock step in order to prove we like each other. I expect you to have opinions and interests of your own, or to enjoy time alone, as I do. I will do my utmost to respect your interests and opinions rather than dismissing or judging them, and I will expect the same.
That said, I'm pretty laid-back when it comes to choosing activities, and I'm often willing to go along for the ride and the company. Heck, I've even gone to Oakland Raiders games and not only lived to tell about it, but enjoyed it!
Life is good and life is short--like me! (Well, at least one of them is like me.) Maybe we can enjoy some of it together. Hey, stranger things have happened!
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Is "dating" still around?? *lol* Well, I wouldn't vote for something that would chain us together for a prolonged time, such as parachuting into the jungle. How about something like a nice quiet coffee shop with a clear view of the exit in case one of us felt the need to make a quick getaway? Maybe we would enjoy getting acquainted enough to get a second cup or upgrade to a restaurant.