For a first i would probably take the lady to a coffee shop or tea room(not trendy i know but some still exist). A place where we can sit and talk with a modicum of privacy but still have people around so that she doesn't feel threatened. i didn't say pub beacause i don't drink a great deal and sometimes the atmosphere is not conducive to conversation. then when the tension has been sliced diced and spread on some crackers and we are feeling alot more relaxed we can go for a meal and we can see if either of us has any disgusting habits that we will never be able to put up with. Or alternately we could go out to one of the local salsa clubs and whizz about the dancefloor for the night.