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Age: 57
trappedonbayst: Just browsing on auto pilot - for now :)
Non-smoker with Average body type
North york, Ontario
54 year old Man, 5' 10" (178cm), Non-Religious
Caucasian Pisces with Brown hair
trappedonbayst Actively seeking a relationship
Some university
Banking IT Project Manager

The dreaded "selfie" April 2014

I am Seeking a Woman For Long term
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? No
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Pets No Pets Eye Color Brown
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? My children are over 18
Longest Relationship Over 10 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious
Second Language Italian  

About John

So welcome again, and truly, thanks for all the emails so far. I thought I’d come back after yet again another hiatus with a fresher perspective on things and what matters most. So if you decide to say Hi, no worries, I won’t treat it as a marriage proposal unless there's an extensive dowry of goats and chickens :) -

Before I start, what I value most in a person and this process is someone who won't fill her dance card throughout the week with multiple dates. Am I being naive? - perhaps, but this is how I roll, one at a time and I hope you share that same philosophy. And please oh please be emotionally, and physically available (i.e. our work schedules are fairly in sync within reason).

So on with the show - I’m a father to one superstar daughter who just finished her first year at university with her sights set on Medical School when she's finished, and at the same time finishing my bankruptcy process (kidding - I swear you have to be careful with what you write!) but I support her wholeheartedly! Although she lives in another city, we still keep to an almost daily contact through every communication medium that there is, it still affords me plenty of time for you, so no worries about my availability. I’ve been more than ready for quite some time, probably more than normal, but as we all know this can be the only game in town, difficult as it may be!

I have a few passionate interests (photography, cars and my car club) that keeps me occupied not to mention a new found love of road course/track racing my own car, but I’ll always be open to new interests you might have since sharing each other’s passions is what makes life that much more rewarding. I’ve strived for simplicity in my life and achieved it but I’m always ready to add a few welcome complications – life can get a bit too quiet at times and I think it’s run its course. So again, don’t feel like you’re going to be inundated with a series of someone else’s’ issues because you’re not as there aren’t any beyond "what's for dinner tonight?". You can though, certainly look to me for support in any part of your life, not how to live it, but more so to be listened to and supported - I'm good at that!.

Character wise, I’m not going to fill your ears with self-back patting or tell you what "my friends would describe me as" simply because I want you to believe I'm the next best thing since sliced bread - I'm not sorry to say. I am though, just your ordinary hard working downtown professional by day faults included, but who has a great love for all that the city offers - the diversity, events of any type, the food, the people and most important that certain "city vibe". On one hand I like simplicity but do understand and appreciate the finer things in life. I understand when Becel goes on sale at Wally World. I get impulse buying, but not without consideration. I understand taking off anywhere the road or skies take me, but also enjoy a perfect evening in, and cooking for someone else, in case you’re the type that burns water, but you pick the movie as I like anything – my daughter taught me tolerance of “girly” movies to the point that if they’re entertaining that’s cool with me. I get the biggest thrill out of taking excessive time in Christmas shopping for my partner, something which I greatly look forward to again as much as a great night out with you – really not too much different than what most like, but very different in what you'll get character and relationship wise!

I’m always looking to the lighter side of life and who likes to poke a little fun at it. A lot of people say I’m a fungi, and I think scratching my head “why mushroom?” You might not get this, but I ended up in a dark cave for days looking for the meaning of this – I still haven’t found it. Maybe you can help me sort this out?

Everyone asks me “what are you looking for?” I think it's fairly basic. Longer than long term; someone to call my ultimate best friend; attraction, which might not be there immediately but will grow with exposure; someone with awareness of themselves and eventually their partner; someone not so caught up in so many interests that has little time for an actual relationship and what it takes to make it thrive; someone with a great urban sense, and who also appreciates the lighter side of life; a bit quirky is always fun; someone who can walk into a crowded room, and to me, will be the only one in that room. Someone serious and with integrity in how this process works; someone unassuming, modest and humble by nature, not someone caught in the dating headlights with 3 hands in the candy bowl blowing smoke up everyone’s pants. I guess that was a laundry list, but that’s what you get in me, not to mention, sure, steady and committed. And as grand as the thought is, someone to travel with to interesting places, not just Cleveland – “it just don’t rock” [sic]

If you want to get my attention just send a simple one liner. Forget the MEET ME's please because all they show is you haven’t read my profile, and in 99% of the cases I acted on - people didn’t reply. A big green YES and a big red NO button should be fairly easy to grasp, right - apparently not. I'll reply if I read something decent that isn't on every 2nd profile, isn’t an obvious cut and paste, or isn’t written like you’re angry at the world :). Pictures of yourself are essential, not just ones of your dog, cat, weasels, ferrets, lizards, your bunions, your prize winning canned turnips, your rear end or some trashy picture of you spread eagled on your bed in your best Walmart lingerie special spilling out more than the Exxon Valdez. Please be local to Toronto or relatively close!

Cheers and best wishes!

PS: Oh yeah, this is a great site for bathroom remodeling ideas! Ladies if you're going to do the bathroom selfies – check your toilet and have the decency to put the lid down, pull the shower curtain, clean the grout and close your medicine cabinet. For the ones with holes in the wall - Polly fill, a piece of sand paper and a coat of paint is your best friend – I swear sometimes!

First Date
Realistically, how about just an espresso at a nice café or casual drink just to see if we really connect, just leave the cell phone in the car please. Nothing says disinterest more than you checking for your emergency "I have to leave - my children are practicing magic and have sawed the babysitter in half” text.

Down the road, say a year, I'll wow you with my Italian cooking - maybe in Italy?

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