trappedonbayst: A modest edge seeks same for a long commitment!
About
Non-smoker with Average body type
City
North york, Ontario
Details
54 year old Man, 5' 10" (178cm), Non-Religious
Ethnicity
Caucasian Pisces with Brown hair
Intent
trappedonbayst Actively seeking a relationship
Education
Some university
Personality
Humanist
Profession
Banking IT Project Manager


dating
Nohing like Italy and your friend's Ferrari! (I hate him :) Aug 2013






I am Seeking a Woman For Long term
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Socially Do you want children? No
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Pets No Pets Eye Color Brown
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? My children are over 18
Longest Relationship Over 10 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious
Second Language Italian  



About John
So welcome again, and truly, thanks for all the emails so far and if it didn't go anywhere it's really nothing personal (although most would think so) it's just not the right fit, circumstances or level attraction. I thought I’d come back after yet again another hiatus with a fresher perspective on things and hopefully a better picker:) So if you decide to say Hi first, no worries, I won’t treat it as a marriage proposal unless there's an extensive dowry of goats and chickens :) - be careful about the goats as I know the best Roti stand in the downtown area that I could strike a good deal with :) Keep in mind that if I view your profile without an initial contact from me, it certainly does not mean I wasn't attracted (I'm probably second guessing myself is usually the case)... so feel free!

So on with the show - I’m a father to one superstar daughter who is now in 2nd year at university with her sights set on Medical School when she's finished her undergrad, and at the same time finishing my bankruptcy process (kidding - I swear you have to be careful with what you write!) but I support her wholeheartedly and besides, having a doctor in the family at just about the time when the old body starts rebelling should be a bonus:) Although she lives in another city, we still keep to an almost daily contact, but you need not worry about my availability.

I have a few passionate interests (photography, cars and my car club) that keeps me occupied not to mention a new found love of road course/track racing my own car, but I’ll always be open to new interests you might have since sharing each other’s passions is what makes life that much more rewarding.

I've strived for simplicity in my life and achieved it but I’m always ready to add a few welcome complications – life can get a bit too quiet at times and I think it’s run its course. So again, don’t feel like you’re going to be inundated with a series of someone else’s’ issues because you’re not as there aren’t any beyond "what's for dinner tonight?". You can though, certainly look to me for support in any part of your life, not how to live it, but more so to be listened to and supported - I'm good at that!.

Character wise, I’m always looking to the lighter side of life and who likes to poke a little fun at it (heaven knows there's tons of material here), but a lot of people have asked me in earnest " ... well what the hell separates you from the other men on POF?" to which I casually answer "Well ... for starters, I routinely sit on chairs and actually use flatware to eat with ..." Does that cinch it?

A bit more serious though, I'm not going to fill your ears with self-back patting or employ the "my friends would describe me as" simply because I want you to believe I'm the next best thing since sliced bread because I'm not sorry to say. A panini is where it's at after all, but then again, look at what Horton's did to that concept - blech!. I am though, just your ordinary hard working downtown professional by day, faults included, but who has a great love for all that the city offers - the diversity, events of any type, the food, the people and most important that certain "city vibe". On one hand I like simplicity but do understand and appreciate the finer things in life. I understand when Becel goes on sale at Wally World. I get impulse buying (that Omega watch is loooking alwfully good) but not without consideration. I understand taking off anywhere the road or skies take me, but also enjoy a perfect evening in, and cooking for someone else who has the skills to burn water, but you'll have to pick the movie though as I like pretty much anything. A daughter has a way of teaching tolerance of “girly” movies to the point that if they’re entertaining that’s cool with me.

Everyone asks me “what are you looking for?” I think it's fairly basic. Longer than long term; someone to call my ultimate best friend; attraction, which might not be there immediately but will grow with exposure; someone with awareness of themselves and eventually their partner; someone not so caught up in so many interests that has little time for an actual relationship and what it takes to make it thrive; someone with a great urban sense, and who also appreciates the lighter side of life; a bit quirky is always fun; someone who can walk into a crowded room, and to me, will be the only one in that room. Someone with integrity in how this process works; someone unassuming, modest and humble by nature, not someone caught in the dating headlights with 3 hands in the candy bowl blowing smoke up everyone’s pants. I guess that was a laundry list, but that’s what you get in me, not to mention, sure, steady and committed. And as grand as the thought is, someone to travel with to interesting places, not just Cleveland – “it just don’t rock” [sic]

Secret Code Phrases Below

If you want to get my attention just send a simple email with a few sentences that at least shows you've read my profile. Forget the MEET ME's, canned FLIRTs and Favourite adds puhleeeze because all they show is you haven’t read my profile, and in 99% of the cases that I acted by sending a note in reply, I was met with no reply - as if I handed them the dead sea scrolls to translate. POF isn't going to deliver me to your door by clicking on a big green YES button, It should be fairly easy to grasp that we should have a few email exchanges right? - apparently not though. I'll reply if your email isn’t an obvious cut and paste, or your profile isn't written in CAPS like you’re angry and bitter at the male race :).

While pictures of just your pets, weasels, ferrets, lizards, painted bunions, prize winning canned turnips, your rear end or some trashy picture of you spread eagled on your bed in your best K-Mart lingerie spilling out more than the Exxon Valdez are oddly compelling, please have some of yourself as well. Local to Toronto or relatively close would be optimum!

Cheers and best wishes!

PS - I understand that some of us may not all have the opportunity to have a throng of fashion photographers or drunken friends with cell phones follow us to every event we attend (myself included), but if you’re going to display your bathroom remodeling idea selfies have the decency to check your toilet and close the lid if necessary, maybe even repair the holes in the tile or drywall – polly-fill, sand paper or a few extra tiles are your best friend. Clear the counter, no one likes to see the meds you’re on as well, could be an initial deal breaker seeing 4 bottles of Xanax or even that skid of “Sponges” :)

First Date
Realistically, how about just an espresso at a nice café or casual drink, a walk along some nice area of town and just to see if we really connect, just leave the cell phone in the car please. Nothing says disinterest more than you checking for your emergency "I have to leave - my children are practicing magic and have sawed the babysitter in half” text every 5 minutes.

Down the road, say in a year, I'll wow you with my Italian cooking in Italy?


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