I am a very cheerful person with a solid value structure. I raised my sons alone and did a GREAT job. I care about the right things and want to spend time with a man that is comfy in his skin because I am that way. I have been self-sufficient my entire life and taken care of others. I would like to know what it is like to have a man truly appreciate and care about me rather than take care of me. The revolving door on my home has been replaced with a regular one since my sons are all out on their own.
I am a bloom where I am planted person ie. I trend toward happiness no matter what. The cup is more than half full. I like to try new Pinot Noir's and new experiences of all kinds...or at least the kind I can tell my Mom about! I don't need things...I want a man that is capable of cherishing being loved by me. I love to laugh but also want to be able to share real feelings. I always told my sons that it is better to respond intellectually than to react emotionally so most people find that odd that I am also very romantic. My pet peeve is incurious people...just cannot understand that!
Here is the real deal for me. I was in Atlantic City for work a few years back. I went to the bar/club in my hotel. I was with my assistant. She and I had an appetizer and a drink and were looking to relax. I noticed a couple on the dance floor. They were in their eighties. They floated on the floor together. She looked up at him like he had hung the moon. He looked down upon her smiling face with a look that spoke of how how grateful he was that she loved him and how much he cherished all that she was. They were not aware of anyone else and they smiled and danced like the world was theirs. I told our waitress to get them a round of whatever they were drinking on me for I was so moved by the love they had for each other. The waitress said they came to that club three nights a week and only drank water...they were just there to dance with each other. Those two people were the youngest people I had ever seen. Not young in years but young in life and in love and in joy. I have always been willing togive of myself but those two people showed me something more than that. They showed me what can be between a man and woman and that it did not have to dwindle with years or be threatened by distraction. Those two lovers really found bliss. Now I am thinking the other days and nights of their life were filled with obligations and routine and sundry tasks of life. But for three nights a week this man and this woman cast off all things mundane in life to look in each others eyes, to laugh and love and dance with each other. The waitress told me they had celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary there just three weeks ago and had been coming to that dance floor for years. I do not expect to have a 60th anniversary ( logic demands this) but I do hope to find a man that can build that kind of love with me. I know I deserve that and am willing to see all that is deserving in a man.
I know that reality is sometimes harsh and no one gets to be over 50 without some heartache but I truly believe in building a loving, generous, respectful and romantic relationship with someone. I once dated a man that said to me "don't worry - all your dreams will come true." The very next day he did not remember saying that to me; in fact he denied it! Take this as a warning - I am wise to lip service. I will only entertain prospects that are sincere and that believe that words, thoughts and deeds make a genuine person. I offer that so I expect that in return.
My friends cannot believe some amazing man has not swept me off my feet and they urged me to try dating sites. Does anyone ever meet their one special love on these sites? I guess one need only be willing. Here goes!