Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
My Perception of an Ideal Relationship
We spend lots of time together, but not an unhealthy amount. It's not a problem if I want to hang out with the guys on Saturday night, because you're hanging out with the girls and we're still having brunch on Sunday morning.
Respect is huge because if you don't respect someone, you're gonna try and change them and if you're trying to change someone, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.
Complete and utter comfort. I can be myself around you without feeling judged. You can sit in your room working while I do a crosswords and I'm entirely content. I only have eyes for you, you only have eyes for me and we communicate this verbally, physically and often. Warm and comforting cuddling are ever present.
Fights are rare and when we do get into it, we don't stop talking until we've reached some sort of peace.
Other important and underrated virtues include: doing nice things for no apparent reason, lots and lots of laughter, a mutually satisfying love life, and the hope that you can have a long and bright future together. And yes, love is hard, but it shouldn't be that hard. We appreciate each others' good qualities and can laugh at each others' bad qualities. And if you don't think you have any bad qualities, well, that's a bad quality right there.
Unparalleled companionship, unprecedented generosity and unconditional love grant us the foundation for a lasting long-term relationship. It's even clearer to me that there's not just one person out there. And even if you get lucky and meet a winner, there's a mountain of work ahead, no matter what. It knows that the work is worth it, that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, which redeems the institution of marriage.
I'm not looking to jump into anything, but I'm a firm believer in chemistry and wouldn't turn my back on someone incredible just because I'm enjoying single life.
A great relationship is one in which the reality is not that far from your fantasy. As long as you have a realistic fantasy, you are bound to one day find your bliss. Listen, we all know that nothing's "perfect," but if a relationship is to have legs, the trust needs to be there, the want has to be greater than the need, the laughter must be constant and the sex should be mind blowing. We are aiming for perfect, aren't we?
My Idea of the (our) First Date
For lack of a better phrase, I'm ‘old school'(Repeat: Not old, but ‘old school'). I'm a gentleman and a romantic and if you don't feel you've been treated like a queen by me, then you weren't paying close enough attention. Ideally, I'd find a restaurant that's conducive to good conversation and hope to find that spark within the first ten minutes. And if not, we should probably still be friends. Seriously! There are plenty of good people out there. It doesn't mean you should discard them if there's no love connection.