The basis of everything I have ever learned, I learned in Kindergarten: Play nice, share, say "Please and Thank You"...etc. The rest kinda fell into place as I grew. I learned that you can't sweat the little things in life or change the things that are not changeable, but you can adapt and overcome. Point being, I am flexible to a cause.
I enjoy a wide range on movies, books and music, mostly adventure, Tom Clancy, Dan Brown and Jazz.(In that order). I enjoy good conversations , make good money, but I am looking for more. By the way, I am rarely emotional but I am very passionate about many things and tend to go on and on sometimes. But most of all, I love my Children (13 YO son & 21 YO daughter) and spend as much time as I can with them as they are part of me and their love for me, as well as mine for them, is unconditional which is HARD to find anymore. I am happy, loyal and not bad to look at or be with. Don't like playing games or being played. I am a very good judge of people. And don't give myself easily...but when I do, hang on. I am not perfect and know that others aren't as well but, I try very hard to please and I am always striving to improve. I am happy and confident, knowing that nothing is impossible, if I can't solve it, again, I adapt and overcome. Being well read, I love to have great conversations about anything. If I find something that interests me, I learn as much as I can about it. I am somewhat driven at what I do however, I know when to not take life too seriously.
I love to have long, great conversations about anything and can keep up with most topics. (It's the well-read thing)
I love the Saturday market downtown St. Pete, flea markets, garage sales and going away for the weekend to new places. I have done A LOT of traveling, although it would be nice to share my adventures and life with someone.
What I look for:
Truthful when needed and reserved when needed as somethings don't need to be said. Someone that is confident and knows them self. An equal to a point meaning someone that I can respect as an equal and mentor them as they mentor me. Friends that can talk about everything not being afraid to be constructive as everyone needs a kick in the butt sometimes. Someone to share life experience with and someone to make memories with.
Someone to take my breath away when they walk into a room, hoping that I do the same for them.
Becoming friends with someone is much more important to me than all other aspects of a relationship. There has to be honesty, loyalty, respect, communication and the ability to see multiple sides of a situation. Never hold a grudge and if there are times when there is a disagreement, don't bring up the past and stay on the topic at hand. Resolve it and move on.
Baggage is OK as long as they can handle it and not have it direct their life. We all learn from our past and grow from the experiences.
I had the opportunity to meet a couple that had been married for 50 years. Upon asking them how they managed to stay together that long, the wife stated "..you must never try to change your spouse...you are with someone for a reason so love them for who they are!!"
We all look for what we think is the perfect person, void of all things we dislike and we place ourselves in a light that we think others want to see us. There are way too many people out there that inflate their persona to the point that it's no wonder why relationships don't last. They find that after a while they can't keep up the front and they revert back to who they really are.
Wouldn't it be nice to start out, meeting someone and get to know them for who they really are??!!