Profiles are like product descriptions. So here goes: Free to a good woman, a young at heart and curious male who values deep conversations, teasing, affection, loyalty and play; who pursues spiritual and personal growth, who loves his adult children deeply, who plays the guitar and golf -- neither, particularly well -- who shaves his head and rides a scooter, who loves women of spirit and intelligence, who loves urban experiences and books, as well as bike riding and beaches, who coaches soccer and makes his living writing. He is average in body composition, but not average at all in discussing feelings, values and the meaning of life. His tastes are eclectic — everything from heavy rock to folk and foreign flicks to sci-fi movies -- and he plans to one day take a cooking course to bolster his grilling and stir-fry staples. He is at once smart and goofy. He loves people and is a great listener. He waches sports, but not obsessively. He golfs, but not obsessively. He is shy and out-going at the same time, or at different times. He believes in romantic love and in the sacrifice it takes to create the foundation for it. He is a writer, so he could go on and on and on. OK, I'll stop.
I guess my ideal first date would be to have you over for dinner, then sit on the balcony. But that freaks some people out. "What? Your place? Uh, no thanks," she says. So we'd meet in a public place and get to know each other. People use this phrase "chemistry" to describe the thing that can happen when two people meet. I think they often refer to physical attraction. But what "chemistry" means to me is a conversation that unfolds after the initial awkwardness to one where we're both inspired by each other's words and laugh a lot.