You are looking for something with someone. So why not me ? I will always give as good as I get and am always willing to at least listen even if I disagree.
Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man really looks like.
He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lex. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back than someone who turns your head.
A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada, yada he is (he won't have to because it shows).
He has his own opinions and you may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.
A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!!"
A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It's just not true.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
In my free time I like to speed down the highway with no destination in mind. I like my partners to be open to anything. I like to meet new friends and gain new perspectives. For me a perfect date is dinner in so we can get to know each other better. I've always been good at getting a conversation started and keeping it interesting. When I'm at home alone, a lot of personal projects and hobbies keep me occupied. If you contact me I promise to make it worth your while. I look forward to hearing from you soon. I'm not changing my life, I'm just trying to make it more interesting.