You will find me easy-going, intermittently funny, and open-minded. I like to take people one at a time, as they are. I'm happy with life, secure, but always looking for ways to improve. I'm told I'm a good listener, a better kisser, and a great cuddler. And I like to get to know people before I form an opinion of them.
I'm a caring, sentimental, and passionate person who doesn't wear his emotions on his sleeve. You will find me a very dedicated friend and lover who will also give you your needed space. Like everyone, I've learned much from the heartaches, and have moved on in the belief that there is something better waiting around the corner.
So, I'm easy to date. No pressures or expectations; no worries necessary on either side. I want our time to be at least pleasant, even if there is no "chemistry" between us. I have a thick skin, a great sense of humor, and I appreciate communication and ugly truthes over silence and pretty lies. Tact, grace and good taste are also important, but I know I'm not perfect, here, so I don't expect anyone else to be, either.
I would love to find someone to trust with my heart, again. I would love to find a partner who wants to be my friend and companion, and eventually, perhaps, my lover. I want someone who is imperfect, and who is not looking for perfection in me. Perfection is boring. If you are realistic, and are open to, or looking for, casual friendship with the possibility of something more, get in touch. I really do want to get to know all about you.
I have no children and no immediate family. I sometimes wistfully regret not having had a child. And, if the opportunity ever presented itself, would love to have one (go ahead, moms, tell me I'm crazy!). I've been divorced since 2005 - closed chapter, no loose ends, no baggage.
P.S. After talking to a couple of you, I have heard that the women have to endure 1) Kinky 78 year olds; 2) Angry men who say you ladies are leading them on by putting profiles up; 3) Men with four kids by three women; 4) "Sort of separated” men 5) men with no job and/or no car who live with their mom; 6)the drug addicts/alcoholic; 7) guys with prison records....let me know if there are more. I'm also not clingy (Need to know why you didn't call me back or what you are doing every minute of the day) or an alpha-male jerk. I promise, I'm none of that.
Along those lines, just came across this... http://www.riverfronttimes.com/slideshow/seven-st-louis-guys-youve-probably-dated-40903156/3/#1
Latest News 20100805: Putting together a whole-house distributed A/V system; Bought a kayak; Running the St. Louis Volunteer Group (www.meetup.com/volunteer-stl); Furnishing/decorating/remodeling the house. 20101202: Petitioning neighbors to approve my solar panel project; getting ready for construction to start on the basement..
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Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
On a first date off the internet it is always wise to meet briefly in a public place just to say hi and get a better feel for each other and find out more about each other.
Otherwise, having a drink and/or meal and finding out about each other. I'm up for just about anything. No worrys. Going to events, exhibits & everything else that happens in this city is always more fun when you have a friend, right?