If you do not design your own life plan, chances are you will fall into someone else plan.
I am of strong character, morally and emotionally grounded, spontaneous, lover of life and can become sassy when deemed necessary. I love boating, fishing, camping, hiking, dining out, movies, dancing, wave running, mountain climbing, concerts, country, oldies rock and christian music. I am always smiling and have a great personality . I have children, so you must be geared towards family life. I have 2 grown ladies almost 24 and 22 and 2 sons, 20 and 19. I am picky and waiting for that amazing man who has many of the same characteristics that I have. You must be strong, motivated, hard worker, have your own life and friends, ideas and direction. We are in the last half of our journey so I am in search of a real man; one who's heart is open. A man who can openly give compliments and wears a bit of his heart on his sleeve because in the end, all I want is to grow old with my best friend.
In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for a playmate when God has a soulmate waiting for us. Sometimes this is a hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun to be with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking this has to be our soulmate. Worse yet, too many of us attempt to make a soulmate out of a playmate. The danger of this is that later (after years of playing) we will meet our soulmate, but it may be too late then. We may have already made a lifemate of our playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children, etc.). Or we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shape ourselves to be anyone's anything.
How can we distinguish between the one, and just another one? First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind. Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your soulmate you have to know you, first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. And is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be he? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will. Oh no! He's too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary looking for me! Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your head. She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn't be for me... He or she is going to treat you like the jewel that you are. Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart?
If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of playmates out there to occupy your time. But don't spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it's appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection.
Your soul begins to crave your soulmate.