So I’ve been on again off again with this website for a while and thought I should freshen up my profile. I know some of the following might come across as harsh but I think it’s better to be honest and save us both a lot of wasted time.
I have no fancy degrees on my office wall but I do enjoy learning about new topics that interest me. I enjoy meaningful conversation and don’t do well with small talk. That said, if you’re going to message me please have more to say than “Hey there”. If I message you and you’re not interested please don’t feel compelled to reply just to be nice.
Some people spend a lot of time writing about what they’re looking for, I don’t really know what I’m looking for but I’m going to list what I’m not looking for.
I’m not looking for a phone/text buddy. Don’t get me wrong, I do feel like it’s important to get to know someone via phone/text before meeting but if you’re the type that just chats with guys and never actually meets them then you’re probably not the girl for me.
I’m not looking for a bar buddy. I don’t drink alcohol (had liver damage when I was younger and my body can’t process alcohol very well). If you find yourself at a bar/club every weekend I don’t think I’m the right guy for you. This doesn’t mean I have a problem with people who drink, I just don’t enjoy spending my free time in bars/clubs. If that’s a big part of your social life we probably won’t be compatible.
I respect all people regardless of their race or sexual orientation. If you enjoy making racist jokes or have an issue with homosexuals you’re definitely not the girl for me.
I’m not perfect and in the spirit of full disclosure I’ll add the following:
I’m an introvert. That doesn’t mean I am shy, quite the opposite. That doesn’t mean I’m some anti-social unabomber type lol. I love spending time with my family and friends, I just need some time alone to recharge.
I’m a smoker. Not something I’m proud of but it is what it is. I am a very considerate smoker and if you don’t smoke I will never smoke around you.
My mother is disabled and lives with me. No, that isn’t secret internet talk for being a jobless loser who lives in his parent’s basement. I have a great job, make good money, have a car, etc. My mother got sick several years ago and since I was the single child I decided to come take care of her. I know this isn’t the ideal situation for many women but my commitment to my family takes priority over my dating life.